Husband promised me he would take time off work and wouldn't leave my side at the hospital when our son got here. I gave birth to him last Monday morning. My husband only stayed at the hospital for a couple of hours then left. He said he had to go to work the next day. He didn't give me a choice. He basically told me what he was doing. I was pushing all morning and I was fully exhausted. Especially having to get stitches because he ripped me pretty good. I also had to get 4 pints of blood because I lost so much. My mom who lives in FL came up to baby sit my 1 year old. My daughter didn't stay with my husband because he has no patience at all. I went home Wednesday morning. Thinking my husband is going to take off the rest of the week for the kids and me... nope. I had to do it all by myself. Since I've been in the hospital I had no sleep really. But he didn't care. Both babies would wake up in the middle of the night wanting a bottle or needed a diaper change and not once did he get up a do it. Anyways , I want a divorce and full custody of my children. I can't take it anymore. I have no help here, no family here, no nothing. Any advice?
Most Helpful Guy
From my perspective it seems like you are assuming a lot of things. Yes it is very common to expect people to not smoke/fight in front of the kids as well as help out with the babies but unfortunately some people are not smart enough to realize these things. I would recommend to have a conversation where you address both of your needs and try to come up with a solution together.
However, reading through the comments I noticed that you said that he threatened to kill you and or the kids and is hiding your phone so you can't leave him. This is just my opinion here but I have no respect for anyone who does things like that to the person who he is "supposed" to love. He is literally trying to trap you in a corner and using all of his power over you in order to keep you.
I would advise you to talk to any family members/friends and find out who would be able to take care of you. Your best bet is to just get out there and run. Keep in mind that doing so is going to make your life rough for a couple of years. You'll have little to no income since you can't work since you just had a baby so you might just have to live off of welfare for a while. The road ahead of you is rough but be strong, persevere, and know that if you don't leave you are only setting up your children to live a sad and depressed life.0
Most Helpful Girl
Put together an exit plan. You have kids now. It’s not as easy as getting up and leaving. You may want to have a conversation with your husband about how unhappy you are in your marriage and with his behaviour before you speak to a lawyer. If he thinks everything is fine between you, he isn’t going to change his ways.1