He left me after 5 years of treating me badly
Why would a guy treat me badly after I've done everything in my power to make him happy?
What Guys Said 18
Please try to see the logic in my reply hon. I'm not being a dick although initially it may appear that way. I know you are hurt and I take it seriously. The the short answer is go back and read your question and ask yourself why do I even care? The more pressing question would be, "If he was abusive and disresctful, why didn't you get out immediately?" You remained for 5 years however. I'm sorry that someone you trusted and loved was cruel to you hon. You don't deserve that, no one does. The ugly truth is because you let him. I'm not suggesting that you provoked the abusive behavior, I'm saying you enabled it. I know you stayed because in your mind, you convinced yourself that you were in love. You have only yourself to blame for the prevailing pattern of behavior. You set a precedence by allowing the abuse to continue. After 5 years of enduring his appalling behavior there are numerous issues that went unaddressed by both of you. Both of you bear responsibility beyond the first 6 months0
Some guys are assholes. That being said, if you allowed him to treat you badly for that long and you didn't do anything about it, then...0
We all learn some hard life lessons on love. You're not alone. You'll find a better guy in the future. And you'll be smarter about to you date too. Best of luck to you.0
Just be patient and wait for someone who will love you the way you deserve to be loved. Forget him. Live your life, do your thing and eventually you'll find someone who will love you!0
Always Remember this phrase... "What you allow, will continue" if you let him treat you like a door mat, he will continue to do so, so demand respect and let whoever you're with know that you need to be treated properly or see ya later!0
Hmm cos maybe he things that he might not suit u like he things u should get a btter person for u to live long or just ask him why he did that to u.. and settle it slowly and move on.. // if it doesn't work hmm.. text me if u want an advise cos I have been through that too0
Because you allowed it. If you don't stand up for yourself your gonna get walked on by more than just him0
Sounds like a one sided relationship. Contrary to popular belief you shouldn't spoil your partner or give your all when they are not.1
Because u let him0
Because you weren't enough for him. And that says more about him then you0
Because he's a terrible person.0
all i know is that there are 2 sides to each story.
Because he's a piece of shit. Not your fault.0
What do you mean by doing everything in your power to make him happy?0
... I think he realized you were too good for him.0
What Girls Said 4
He started taking you for granted.
He knew you loved him and would stick around no matter what. Most men would do anything for that, but sometimes, some really immature guys take a beautiful woman who would do anything for them as a massive inflation to their ego
He probably started thinking that he could do better - not because you're not good enough, but because you didn't teach him to value you And probably put him on a pedestal which he now believes everyone sees him on - but trust me they don't and he'll soon realise that
When he does he may try to reach out to you but you need to make yourself strong enough to not give in
Because he doesn't deserve you..
As you said, he treated you badly for the duration of your relationship so if you think about it, he's the one losing out from this breakup... You essentially haven't lost anything except a person who only took from you... and I think that's a win if anything
So be strong!
Cry if you need to, but never in front of him
Make him believe you're happier and better off without him, and eventually you won't have to pretend anymore coz you'll realize that you really are
Good luck (: x
Be thankfiul and don’t over think it.0
He wasn't for you, you tried and he didn't. You're better off w/o him0
He doesn't appropriate0
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