He left me after 5 years of treating me badly
Most Helpful Guy
Please try to see the logic in my reply hon. I'm not being a dick although initially it may appear that way. I know you are hurt and I take it seriously. The the short answer is go back and read your question and ask yourself why do I even care? The more pressing question would be, "If he was abusive and disresctful, why didn't you get out immediately?" You remained for 5 years however. I'm sorry that someone you trusted and loved was cruel to you hon. You don't deserve that, no one does. The ugly truth is because you let him. I'm not suggesting that you provoked the abusive behavior, I'm saying you enabled it. I know you stayed because in your mind, you convinced yourself that you were in love. You have only yourself to blame for the prevailing pattern of behavior. You set a precedence by allowing the abuse to continue. After 5 years of enduring his appalling behavior there are numerous issues that went unaddressed by both of you. Both of you bear responsibility beyond the first 6 months0
Most Helpful Girl
He started taking you for granted.
He knew you loved him and would stick around no matter what. Most men would do anything for that, but sometimes, some really immature guys take a beautiful woman who would do anything for them as a massive inflation to their ego
He probably started thinking that he could do better - not because you're not good enough, but because you didn't teach him to value you And probably put him on a pedestal which he now believes everyone sees him on - but trust me they don't and he'll soon realise that
When he does he may try to reach out to you but you need to make yourself strong enough to not give in
Because he doesn't deserve you..
As you said, he treated you badly for the duration of your relationship so if you think about it, he's the one losing out from this breakup... You essentially haven't lost anything except a person who only took from you... and I think that's a win if anything
So be strong!
Cry if you need to, but never in front of him
Make him believe you're happier and better off without him, and eventually you won't have to pretend anymore coz you'll realize that you really are
Good luck (: x