Rumor has it that my ex seems depressed as fuck ever since we broke up. He isn't even talking to his friends and he drinks alone. His friends keep expressing concern for him and one of them asked if I ever talk to him. I don't know what their deal or his deal is. He is honestly being a little dramatic.
I am trying to stay away from negativity as much as possible but part of me wants to just talk to him and say "I'll just be a friend if you need me." It is not my job to console him though... I have no idea what to do.
Most Helpful Guy
You don't need to do a damn thing. His friends and family can do something about it if they want. Honestly he is a grown man and can do what he wants, if he wants to live boring depressing world that's him.
Most Helpful Girl
Pour yourself a nice tall glass of "not my problem".
On your end; I get you don't want to see him depressed or miserable. You didn't want to be with him, but you don't want to mess up his life. That speaks well of you. After a break up, you really should focus on yourself. What are your goals, what needs your focus, what did you learn?
On his end; giving him an open door like that isn't kind in the long run. Might give him hope, no matter what you tell him. Actions speak louder than words, so if you make yourself available to him, he may think there's still a chance. Make a clean break, and let him move on.3