We’ve been together 2 years. Lately things have been weird between us. I just noticed a awkwardness that developed. When I asked what was going on, he told me how he’s been feeling and the thoughts he’s been having and that he’s tired of lying and pretending everything is okay. Everything he said made sense and I understood how it was effecting our relationship. I just now don’t know what to do or how to help him. He’s not the kind To go to
therapy or take any medication. So I thought just being there as a supportive girlfriend and constantly reminding him that I love & support him , would be enough. But lately I’ve been finding that really draining because I’m no longer getting my emotional needs meet. The relationship became one sided, we do talk a lot more and have sex but it just doesn’t feel like a relationship anymore. I know I sound a little selfish and I wanna stick this out for us. He talks about us getting married and having kids once he’s better. But right now it’s a very confusing situation & sometimes I feel that supporting him as a friend will be better for the both of us. But I don’t wanna regret that decisions. Opinions?
Most Helpful Guy
I'm sorry for both of you. It sounds emotionally strenuous. You need to get out. Of course you want to lend emotional support but you can't be around negative behavior so you tell him you love him and can't watch him hurting so he can call you if he really is feeling suicidal but then you are going to insist he get help because you didn't leave just so you can continue experiencing the negative effects that prompted your departure in the first place. It's counterproductive and you can no longer subject yourself to it. Its the reason you left it's too depressing! Good luck honey.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
You should support him 100%.
But remind him, that you are not the solution.
Whoever you date, marry, will go through tough times.
You will never be the solution, but you should be the support.
Hang in there with him, and work with him on finding therapists that are covered in his medical insurance.2THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE