So basically I was single for 4 years, from 17 to 21. And I hadn't feel a deep connection with anyone until I met this guy (this year). We hit it off really well and soon we started dating. Bare in mind, he just got out of a year long relationship just before we started talking.
I knew it wasn't a good idea to get together so fast but we did anyway. And I regret it so much. We got together within 2 weeks of knowing each other, everything just happened so fast and I started falling for him within a month. Actually I did, I thought he was perfect. And he was until the last month of our relationship.
We were only together for 4 months but we talked everyday we were always together and if we weren't together we'd be calling each other.
He suddenly broke up with me out of the blue. I didn't understand because I thought we were happy. He seemed happy to me. I know I was happy. But now I see him flirting around and it really hurts me.
I know 4 months isn't long but I really did give him a big piece of my heart. I feel so stupid because I just got myself together before I met him. Now I cry every night, I just really need some solid advice right now.
Most Helpful Guy
OMG this sounds so much like my own story that it scares me a little to read it memories etc.
You know I believe in how and why and what you did with the spontaneous quickness to advance into a realationship. The issue isn't you on why or for what reason he did that. Time and time again o hear the same stories from woman I am or was talking to, problem is the damn trouser droppers (as I call them) leave a huge wreckage behind of pain and sorrow I can't clean up. In my own life last two woman nearly 16 years of my life and all the words I got from them was we missed THE HUNT.
so really to answer you and sorry for my soapbox is keep on trying let your heart tell you what to do I know its scary but don't them them leave scars on it, don't change who you are. Wish I thought of that sooner to think I just answered my own question to.2
Most Helpful Girl
Don’t be so hard on yourself. Maybe you didn’t intend to wind up in a relationship, but sometimes we have no control over what happens with our lives. When I’ve gotten my heart broken in the past, I always have the same method. I give myself one night to have a good cry. To mourn what was lost and lick my wounds. After that, I gotta move forward, and you should to. Hell, be proud of yourself. Because somehow, you were able to fall for someone again even when you thought your heart didn’t have the capacity for it. That’s amazing! This is going to hurt every day for a while, but each day it gets a bit easier! So no more beating yourself up for things you can’t change, and focus on the positives. You will get through this!1