I've know this one significant person for about a year now, we are not dating however act like we are. We used to spend everyday together, we are very comfortable with each other and share everything with each other. I feel so comfortable around him and he used to call me babe, tells me "I love you" but lately this pass few weeks, everything has changed into a total opposite. He's been really busy with work, there are weeks where we don't even communicate. When we do hang out once in a while it does not feel the same the feeling is not the same anymore. There is no doubt I love him but I feel like he isn't trying anymore and I'm the only one trying. How do I break it down to him that I'm the only one trying and I can't do this anymore. I'm hurting really bad, I've cried everyday and I deserve better
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All couples have their slumps. So many married couples will tell you about this period or two in their long marriage where everything seemed pointless. But if you really care about him and you want to make it work, you'll find a way to persevere and to understand what is going on with him.
If you already tried to work it out, well then, by all means, move on. It just sounds like from the little bit you have told me, that your man is stressed out by his work or maybe completely drained by it. Try to see things from his perspective. And then imagine what would happen if you just up and left him out of the blue when he is at this low point. I know if it were me, I would feel crushed, especially if my woman didn't even ask me what I was going through as if it was all /my/ fault.
But hey, we don't know the whole story. If he is treating you badly out of nowhere, I would still consider that maybe it has nothing to do with you and maybe it would be more helpful to be supportive and find out.
So many women claim that we shouldn't be therapists to our partners, but really, we are the ones who should know each other, care about each other, support each other. That is what love is all about. Love isn't selfish, it is sacrificing and when your partner is going through hell, abandoning them is like abandoning yourself because your hearts are connected.
Maybe I am a romantic, but I know that I would want a partner who fights for me, who is my champion, and I would do the same for them when they need a rock to stand on.0