Would you stay in an unhappy marriage for the sake of the children?

  • No, i deserve to be happy. Besides it's better for the children we divorce.
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  • Yes, i would stay for the children because leaving is selfish.
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  • I don't get this mentality because if you're not happy, it's going to show and the kids are going to notice it, why put yourself through it? And what benefit is it going to do/be for them? Lots of kids parents divorce and not only do they adapt, but turn out just fine. It's how the parents handle it is what affects them, not whether they stay together or not. That's my opinion anyway.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • Marriage is not meant for you to get divorce for. While you do want to stay with your children, couples are unhappy because they refuse to work together. They need counseling and work it out. Before it teaches their kids that it's normal to divorce. They need to make their own self's happy. Marriage is about that person you married. Not about you. If you need a small break and separate, do that. You don't need any legal separation. But you have to come to terms and learn to properly communicate with your spouse and get to the bottom of your issue that you think it warrants for divorce.

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What Guys Said 25

  • It has long been proven that staying for the children doesn't make any sense. Especially if you relationship is violent or volatile. Everybody will be happier with a separation of some sort. Even the pets.

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  • No. I'll be there for the kids, and would do my best attempt to have half custody but I won't be staying in a relationship with someone I no longer want in my life. My responsibility are the kids, only.

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  • Without being in that situation, it would be flippant to try and give an answer.

    Sometimes doing so can be more harmful to the children than ending the marriage, though.

    I hope I'm never in that situation, and feel for those who are.

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  • The only reason I would leave a relationship is if the girl cheated on me or was (violently) mentally unstable and I had tried for a long time to change her ways or get her help. Any other reason i wouldn't leave.

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  • My answer would be that you should get a divorce but try to not let it affecr your children too much... Cos they will be hurt... But at the same time hurting yourself for the sake of your children is not right either

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  • That’s hard one. I’d say that it depends on the specific situation.
    Obviously if one parent is abusive then the marriage needs to end for the sake of the kids and other adult.
    However, divorce can really screw up children. If possible, then the adults should wait until the kids are out of the house.
    Yes, keeping two unhappy people together is bad, but so is destroying a family, even if it’s for the greater good.

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  • As if the children would not figure out their parents are unhappy together... Of course separate if you're unhappy. Better they see both parents happy in separate environments than grow up in a warzone. I honestly believe the "staying together for the kids" hurts them more emotionally than helps them, and does not set a proper example for them as to what a healthy loving relationship looks like.

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  • It's better to be from a broken home than to live in a broken home.

    Yes, divorce is harder for children. That we all know. If the couple fights constantly and has no kind words for each other, these kids see this and think it's normal and will repeate this abusive relationship behavior in the future spouse they marry.
    Parents can tell their children that they will always love them but mom and dad will be better away from each other depending on the age of the children.

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  • No.
    My parents had a very unhappy marriage, my brother and I were in the middle and it was nothing but miserable, I have nothing but bad memories about that time. It was such a relief when they got divorced. By my experience I can say that staying in an unhappy marriage is not necessarily the best for the children.

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  • My parents are still together because they think it's better for us, but no matter how hard you try, kids will notice something's off and they'll also have a hard time with that. So not only for your own sake should you get a divorce, but also for your kids.

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