Every single time I want my girlfriend to come along with me to something and she doesn't want to then she just doesn't. But when my girlfriend wants to do exactly the same thing with me and I say no, she just gets very mad so then I have to go with her..
how do I regain power?
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personally if I was dating a guy and he just did everything I said I would start to find him less attractive. just because she gives you that "what's gotten into you" doesn't mean you should back out. do the opposite, stand your ground. she's saying this because she isn't used to you standing up for yourself but if you don't you're going to be miserable and walked on for the rest of your relationship. chances are any other relationship you may be in too the same will happen. just pull her aside and tell her that you don't like her ordering you around. tell her that you don't mind doing things with her but that some things you think would be better left for her and her girlfriends. you have to make your point come across but at the same time you don't want to be an ass about it. just trust that you can do a good balance and just let her know that you have a mind, you have a voice, and that you don't want to be in a relationship where you feel like you have no say. afterall it's called a RELATIONSHIP not a DICTATORSHIP. good luck and I hope it all works out!0