Hi everyone, so I met this guy a few months ago, we went on a first date and had a great time. I then agreed to a second date. He was away for a couple of weeks with his friends so there was about 3 weeks in between the first and second date. We were texting constantly during this time and he seemed to really fall for me saying I was “special” and he couldn’t wait to see me. We had our second date and it was great, but I was feeling a bit smothered and wasn’t sure. I let it lie though and carried on seeing him and eventually realised I did really like him. So we kept seeing each other about once a week, staying at each other’s and it was great. He asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes. However, two weeks later he broke up with me. He said he couldn’t give me what I needed and the feeling wasn’t right. I had seen him two days prior to this and everything was completely normal. I noticed absolutely nothing different in his behaviour towards me. I was very confused. The only think I can think of is that he may not be able to commit. I’m his first girlfriend (he’s 27, I am 25) which isn’t a problem for me, but we’d had a discussion about how much time we were spending with each other and I basically wanted to see him more than once a week. I really feel like he’s bailed too soon and just didn’t give it a fair chance. We had so much fun together and had talked about spending Christmas with each other only a few days before he broke up with me. I haven’t spoken to him since (about a week now) and I know it’s impossible to say, but do you think there is any hope at all for us in the future?
He seemed to give up so easily... will he come back?
What Guys Said 2
Honestly this is going to sound dumb, but: Shit's weird, man. Commitment issues can be super complicated, and while I think that you can push through them together, it's probably gonna suck for a little. I'd suggest just showing him that commitment isn't so scary, it's just putting a name on what you already had. However, do not assume that you understand his issue, because if I may say once again: Shit's weird, man. Just be his best friend and try to work with him and move at his speed without babying him. That's the best advice I got, I hope it helps0
What Girls Said 2
You two are already broken, it is so difficult to build up trust again after a break up. He might have commitment issues but this is something you can't fix and what I realized when I was in a similar situation is that as much as it hurts to let go it is better that way.0
The same thing also happened to me. He was the enthusiastic one at first, but after a week after we decided to actually have a relationship, he dumped me. But everything was normal when we met. So I can totally relate to you. In my case, it turns out the guy found another girl to be with. I never contacted him, and he never contacted me since he broke up with me.
If he decided to walk away, his loss. Even if you decide to meet him again, I don't think it will lead to a healthy relationship...
I'm sorry honey, but the world is big, there will b a more awesome guy waiting for you. I'm sorry that happened to you. You must have been really confused.0
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