He left. For some time now. But he once in a while makes an appearance in my email or my FB (like or lame comment). I'm in a lot of pain. I can't imagine myself with anyone else, and I can't understand how he can feel different. We planned a future together and then he just decided to take off. We are LDR. Each day seems to get worse instead of better. I can't really delete/block him because I have a work page that he can always see. How do I move on? And why hasn't he?
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I too was in an LDR and even though my ex and me still communicate, nothing is the same, so I understand how you feel. It is hard especially when you cannot see each other. The thing is, he broke up the relationship and is still lingering about, neither in your life or out of it. The fact that you have had no closure and are still hurting is because, the person who does the ending, is the one to get closure first, while the one left behind, takes a lot longer for to heal and move on.
At the moment you are doing the nc, which sometimes works. The thing is the longer you leave it feelings can subside. You could leave it for two weeks then contact him, just saying hi and how are you? But leave it at that. If there was a way for you to meet up with him when the time was right, then you may stand a chance, as I am sure memories will come flooding back if he saw you.
For the time being your best keeping busy, go out with friends and enjoy life. Don't sit at home wondering and wishing things back, you can't go there, just go forward. Why not take up a new hobby or interest. Meet new people, learn a new language. There is so much out there.
The link above, is for a website that is free to join and most of the activities are free as well.
I really wish you the best and don't rush anything. Rome wasn't built in a day, so be patient with yourself. Take care1
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