can anyone share some good tips that got their ex back and how long did it take?
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You don't. You move on. A guy isn't going to want a girl who is groveling and can't be happy without him. A guy wants a confident woman who can stand on her own, with or without him. Guys want a girl who can say "I was happy before you and be damn sure I'll be happy after you." And mean it. Pretending to be confident to win a guy back doesn't work either.
What you (and the other commenter) need to focus on is you. Who cares about the ex. Seriously, you WILL find another guy. It's not even a "if" more along the lines of when. And the truth is, when you are happy, and settled and healthy and in a good place for YOU as an individual, you will attract someone who is in the same boat and THAT is a relationship that will flourish.
Stop focusing on missing your ex. Stop thinking about what you miss about them. Think about the REALITY. Why did you guys break up. What were your fights about? Were you constantly fighting? Were you always going to your friends with advice about how to "make it better?" Ask your friends their perspective. Did they feel like you guys fought a lot? And just because it didn't work with this guy, doesn't mean it won't work with another.
Hey, man, I am newly single after a 2+ year relationship. I lived with the guy for almost two years. I had pets with him. I moved to a new city far away from home with him. So I promise, I understand the lonliness, if not moreso as I don't even have my closest friends and family. But I'm happy! It was sad, it hurt, I felt lost, but then you wake up and brush off and move on. You go out and meet new friends or focus on old ones. And that DOES NOT mean talking their ear off about how sad and lonely you are. That means putting yourself into whatever activity is before you (work, hobbies, going out).
And WHEN you have moved on, your guys will probably come back. They'll see a confident woman who doesn't need them, and they'll want to win you back. The real beauty is, at that point, you won't even want them back.1
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