I want my ex back she dumped me and I don't know why I think she just wants more than me. The joy of life is gone I just can't see a reason to do sh*t people say it gets better but does it really? Its only been nearly 2 weeks but every day just gets harder and more painful no one can tell me it will be alright because to me it won't she won't come back and I am going to carry this pain till the day I die. I will get no answers from her or a reason why and that something I need to move on so how the f*** do I do it please someone give me something better than it gets easier, time heals all and all the same sh*t you see on tv.
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Wow, I really feel for you.
You seem to have given a lot to her and honestly loved her, so now that she's turned away and said "no, thanks", your self-esteem is totally smashed. I know quite well how you feel. =/
I know it will be tough - but accept that. Next time, don't let your individuality be compromised for someone, because you will be at a loss if they ever leave.
I agree with scott63a, as well ... either there were serious relationship problems, or she's acting like an idiot. People don't leave for no reason. She probably doesn't even know what it means to love someone, and she certainly couldn't appreciate YOUR feelings for her. She won't find another guy like you so easily, if that's some consolation. She might eventually realize it or not, but it shouldn't matter to you anymore.
You deserved at least an explanation.
But now, let all that go. You think you lost a part of yourself, but you're the same person as you were. Just as complete. But you've broken up with someone who obviously doesn't deserve you. So why do YOU feel bad ?
Ok, you might never forget her (though I doubt she was that great, and she acted really immature). But you'll eventually see her mistakes and they way she treated you more clearly, and it will be easier then.
Until then, keep busy. Extremely busy. Reinvent your life. Stop thinking about the past, stop thinking about any bad thing that happened, and work for the future. Take up a new sport, develop some new interests or hobbies, meet new people (but don't force yourself ... just take it easy and be with people that mean something to you). Traveling to new places will make you feel like a new person and give you new, positive experiences, especially if you go with a best friend or something. Watch some good comedies and cut all sad movies, songs and memories of her out for a while. You can cry, remember and regret later. Now it's time to do some action. :)
Another tip. Every time you catch yourself thinking about her, about how bad you feel or about how worthless you are, STOP - even if it happens every second. It isn't true. It's just your subconscious not being helpful at all and you trying to keep yourself from being happy. You can be, I promise. And also, you deserve it.
It would really help to change a few habits, your style or even move somewhere else if you can (you could also stay with a friend for a while). You need to turn your head around this because she obviously wasn't worth your time, and do new things in your life. When you will feel more positive, you will also attract more people and eventually, you'll feel strong enough to start completely anew.
I believe in you. :)
This might've been a tough episode, but you sound genuine and lovely ... you deserved someone better. And I know eventually you will find a girl that'll love you for who you are.