My ex and I have recently started talking after about a month after the breakup. He wants to be friends and not "burn a bridge," and gradually communicate through Facebook to in person contact.
Two weeks ago, in person, he was "confused" and "maybe not as over me as he thought." One week ago, over the phone, he felt he "wasn't as confused" and wanted to rebuild the friendship.
Last night, he didn't want to hang out cause he was tired (but I shouldn't take it personally, and should keep asking whenever I'm in town), and he got OFFENDED when I remarked that he was over me. Why the heck would he be offended? And he said his feelings were "complicated," but he wants "just friends." If he wants to be just friends, doesn't that mean he's over it?
I don't know how to act, and I'm feeling really, super upset, and kind of just "f all men" at the moment...
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This is typical behavior that people go through when they break up with someone- they miss their company, and probably lonely. They say they miss the person but don't wanto to go back with them. I went through this with my ex. I don't know the psychology of it but I think it is pretty common.
I would approach it with much caution because he wants to remain friends( something that may be impossible to do) but is confused with his feelings. He may just want sex. Make sure you do not give him any. If he truly does miss you for you as a person he will come back. I have been though this with my ex. He says he misses me and still loves me, and on many occasions says he's coming home. but then he changes his mind. I wish you luck.