I want to keep this as short as possible so as not to bore you girls but I just want to know if (A) we still have chance and (B) if I should wait for her to contact me.
We were together for about 2 years and never argued or disagreed on anything. I wasn't a bad boyfriend, in fact I think I was a pretty good boyfriend. Things got a bit rocky a couple of months ago because I stopped smoking weed and suddenly wanted a bit more out of the relationship. I tried to talk to her about our issues and she didn't really know what to say (we never really talked this deep before) so suggested we have a break.
I agreed and that lasted about 4 days then we decided to take things slow and give each other time to do our own thing but that was just making me feel worse as I thought we were taking a step back.
Eventually (about 4 weeks ago now) we decided that we should indeed just take a break and try and start over again. I reassured that I wanted to be with her and that she should not worry and just take this time to be herself again. She told me how amazing I was and that she would be thinking of me every day.
I called her about a week later telling her I missed her so much and that taking a break was the wrong idea for me but she said she misses me but not being with me.
SO I said to her that if she doesn't want to be with me then just tell me so I can move on and all I wanted was for her to be happy. her response was "i don't want to be with you right now"
Its been nearly 4 weeks since that conversation and I haven't contacted her although she sent me a text last week to thank her for the clothes I washed for her and took them round while she wasn't there. Although she thinks I have slept with someone because one of jumpers I gave her wasn't hers. I told her it was probably my brothers girlfriends jumpers and she didn't need to drive over here just for the sake of a jumper and that was it. that was 6 days ago and as the days go on I think I have and less chance of getting back with her.
Can any of you girls tell me if I'm just wasting my time by giving her space and hoping she calls me or if I should give up?
Also what did she mean when she was saying those things on the phone?
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If a girl wants to be with you she will. "I don't want to be with you right now" is pretty clear. I think she risks the chances of you moving on with someone else the longer she takes to figure her sh*t out. I think she knows this, but still feels the separation is best for both of you.
I'm going through a similar situation... My ex-boyfriend of three years broke up with me 5 weeks ago. I didn't want it and he tells me he loves me, but doesn't want to be in a relationship... So I've spent the better part of 4 weeks crying and begging and pretty much making a damn fool of myself.
Now I'm not over it... I still want to be with him, but I'm not going to make myself miserable thinking about what's going on in his head. F*7ck that.
You should do the same. Stop thinking about what she wants and focus on how you can carry on without her. Yeah, it's cool that you miss her and you feel comfortable enough to express your feelings, but don't let her think that your happiness is dependent on her coming back to you.
If she thinks you slept with someone else because of a stupid jumper, then she doesn't trust you and you have bigger problems than you think.0