My ex and I broke up because I acted clingy and arrogantly with her. I waited a while for things to settle down, before apologizing profusely for everything that I did wrong, and telling her that if she had it in her to give me another chance, I would work to change myself, but if not, I would be content knowing that God had a better plan for both of us.
She responded (after a month of not answering one or two other texts, mind you), saying she appreciated it. I texted her again, this time telling her I wanted what we used to share back, and reinforcing how I wanted to become a better person for her. She responded that for right now, casually saying hello every now and then would be fine.
Right now, at least we're on speaking terms, with the potential for more in the future (hence the for right now). What would be an ideal way to win her back fully at this point?
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There is no set plan or formula to win someone back. Winning someone back takes time, work, and above all patience. What you really need to do, is not to concentrate winning her back, but by you making a concious effort to change. If you go back into the relationship again, without having worked on yourself to change in you what brought about the end of it, could seriously damage your chances if the relationship happen to come about again, she will see you have not changed and then will go again this time perhaps for good.
So work on and change the aspects of yourself, that she didn't like, become a better person and when she eventually sees you , she will notice the changes in you and it will make all the difference within the relationship, perhaps even better it.
So do that first, then when you feel ready, call her, tell her you just wanted to say hi and to ask her how she is, then tell her that it would be nice sometime to meet up for lunch for a chat, it would be fun. Make sure it is in the day time so it looks less like a date and use your words wisely, ones of friendship, not romantic ones. You need to build a friendship with her firstly, and take your time with this.
Remember work on yourself first, then call her.0