I was just wondering if girls were the same with guys when it comes to break ups.
I know for me and a few of my mates that when we've broken up with girls we tend to be having the time of our life for a couple of months and then it settles in with what we've lost and usually its too late for reconciliation.
This is semi related to my last post but say you didn't break up on bad terms but you were just enjoying being yourself again how long does it usually take you girls to realize you miss you ex and you want to get in contact with them?
Obviously I understand that there are a lot of times where you don't and you continue to enjoy being single but it would be great to get some inside info on what its like from a girls side of things :)
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Two of my very close friends broke up less than a week ago, so I kind of have both sides of that one. The guy was the one that did the dumping, but he felt bad about it, because it was more an "it's me, not you" situation than anything else. He's spent the time since then surrounding himself with all his friends and partying, but I think that's mostly an excuse to have other people make him laugh and drink himself into oblivion. When he was sober and I was alone with him a few days ago, he seemed much sadder, and he did ask for advice, but seemed very shy about doing so.
On the other hand, the girl immediately broke down and retreated to her parents' house for a few days. I've been hanging out with her a lot just so she doesn't feel isolated, but also to give her a shoulder to cry on and and ear to listen. And that's what she's been doing - crying a lot, and talking to anyone who will listen about what's going on and how she feels. She misses him a lot, but she's determined to replace that with other people and things. And I think she's actually doing better now than he is - she's being all kinds of social and doing activities and classes just fine, but he's still acting kind of reclusive and ashamed.
Then there's me and my ex. He dumped me, I was a mess for a few days, but I resolved to get over him and not look back, so I did. He, on the other hand, wanted me back almost immediately (like within a few weeks), so that was kind of a mess.
Distilled, what I'm saying is that at least in my experience, guys and girls deal with breakups very differently.
I don't know if this answered your question at all, but maybe you'll get something from it anyway..0