OK so my ex cheated on me, and I've been very depressed but part of me is willing to give her another chance, only if she proves herself, because I am in love with her simple as that.. but she has said she will and she loves me and wants me back, yet in the past week since it happened, she has done nothing of a sort, yea I've pushed her away and told her there will never be an us again, but she has made no effort to try and connect with me or understand what I'm going through, maybe if she pushed and tried harder id be able 2 see that she wants me back and is honestly sorry but she hasn't done that.. even tho she has said she will prove 2 me we can be okay again.. now I'm stuck calling her all the time because I can't cope with this.. I miss her, I'm not ready to forgive or forget but in time maybe if she made the effort... why would she not be making the effort? if she was genuine and honestly sorry would she not be throwing herself at me?
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If your not ready to forgive her then your not ready to get back with her. Suggest some time apart.
This will let her know that your serious about your decission and give her time to think about what's she's done. If you forgave her strait away she is given the impression that you are a push over and she can do it again. You need to be firm about this.
Yes it could be a mistake and yes she might not do it again, but she has to earn your trust and respect back and diving strait back in where you left off doesn't solve anything.
Just tell her you don't think that she's making enough effort and you would like a month of no contact to clear you head and deicde what you want to do. She'll soon start to worry about you with other women don't worry :)0