OK here we go. I'm 31 she is 27. She moved in as my roommate and we shared everything after a while we started liking each other. Then bam we started a relationship. Got a puppy together, it was perfect I had found my soul mate, after a while like 3 months we got engaged.
It was great till one night I dropped her off to a work function, which was fine till I come back later to pick her up. I waited and no text response, so then I walked into the function.
I could not believe my eyes; she was sitting on a young guys lap licking his face or something. This is like a week after I gave her the ring! I stormed out and she came after me. And told me it was a dare. So I let it go...still a bit mad though.
At home that night she was texting someone. She passed out so I sot a bit nosy and read her phone. She said that she had pashed a workmate and I walked in...Some things never change...
I hit her up about it and she denied it.
still feeling confused I face booked the guy as I kind of knew him and asked him nicely to not cross the line with her as we were engaged..Bad move on my behalf.
This blew over for a few months till yea another work function.
I left her alone that night and had full trust until I got asked to pick her up. She was off her face and was spewing. Legless ETC so got her home and put her to bed. Her best mate was with her at the time and was holding on to her phone. She then started saying you are not getting your phone back till the morning. That gave me alarm bells. What had she done that night...?
So I asked for it and read that a work mate wanted to take her out for dinner and drinks at his place. And she agreed...sounded like a date to me. So I asked her about this. She maintained that they are only friends. The whole point to this is that I wanted to meet her new friends which h were mostly male and hang out and get to know them. She always said no I cannot come to a work drinks...why not! I asked. She said no partners are welcome...it was at a public bar. And also I don’t know of any work drinks that last till 1am in the morning. Every Fri.
Back to the story. I got over the date thing may have been innocent. Till she said she wanted "space" she then started going to the bar every Fri. I found out that her and a bouncer was flirting and they had swapped numbers. After a bit of time I saw the signs that she was up to no good. Taking phone to bathroom and everywhere, text late at night and everything. New underwear. Sexy stockings etc.they def went for me. So I had huge alarm bells ringing at this time!Still I let her go out and gave her space. Same bar every Fri. One night I wanted to know what was happening it was killing me! I was hearing secrets from her and her friend. So I decided to check her hotmail. Then Bam!Pages and pages of chat to this bouncer guy who works at her work too...it was like computer sex, everything he and she wanted to know about each other...it made me sick inside. To see this.
I want her back
What are her intentions here. after all the heart ache and lies and with me moving out and away, is she wanting to mend things? what do I do.