I've been married for almost 2 years now, but known him for 24. He comes home after work, he doesn't go out, but he's addicted to the darn computer and games. He doesn't come to bed with me hardly and blames it on his work schedule. I don't know. Something just doesn't feel right. He says he's loyal and faithful, but I think he has an internet thing going on. We have arguments about internet p*rn and he told me he'd give it up for me. (I did not request this) but I think he still does it and may have something going on.
So how can I tell? Please help me, I don't want to go through this sort of thing again.
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First let me say I am not making excuses for his behavior.
A guys sex drive can be affected by a lot of things. Finances, pressure or changes at work, long hours, extended family problems, physical health...by no means a complete list, but you get the general idea.
It's going to affect all levels of intimacy.
For a guy, this kind of "failure" is a real blow to the ego. We don't deal well with it.
He may be addicted to the computer as well. Seems to be a more common trend nowdays.
While most of that is going to take communication to resolve, the immediate problem is time together.
The games he plays...are they things you can be a part of? See, here the thing...If you can't draw him to you, then go to him.
If there is something going on he's hiding, being involved on the computer with him is going to draw it out. If he is just using it as an escape, being involved will at least let him see you're trying.
Yeah...I get how boring the virtual world can be. I prefer reality myself, but me and my girl do play one of the online games together a few times a month...it's time we plan and set aside just for that purpose.
Hope this helps0