We had been seeing each other for 7 months and within that time I had asked him where we stand. He said he did not want to be my boyfriend because he was scared he might hurt me because he doesn't trust himself but regardless (on my stupidity) I still stayed because we have feelings for each other and even though we didn't have the title, it was everything like a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship. When I fell pregnant, he could not even sit next to me, he pushed me away and when asked, he told me he was seeing several girls. As painful as it is, I decided then that I would cut him out of my life. The first week passed and I was so numb. it was time for my doctors appointment and they required my ultrasound which I had left at his place so I called his housemate and asked if it was fine to come past to pick it up (because I didn't want to talk to him) and he said its cool so I went by. The door was open so I walked into his room to find him sleeping next to another girl. I just took everything that I owned in that room and left. he was angry because he thought I was going there to spy on him which was not true. He wanted me to call him b4 I come over because he doesn't want me to see things like that because it will happen more. He's sorry that he hurts me but he can't change the way he is. I have not contacted him at all. I try so hard to be strong but I can't sleep at night. He has told me he doesn't ever want to change. Will he ever realize his actions?
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I am so sorry to hear you're going through this, sweetie. It's the hardest thing in the world when someone turns their back on you when you need them to be there the most. :( Even though he's saying what kind of person he is, it sounds to me like he's refusing to take responsibility. He went back to that lifestyle of his without a pause in his behavior. I think it's inconsiderate, especially considering the delicacy of your state. For crying out loud, it is so low to abandon someone like that ...and then he gets his panties in a bunch by accusing you of spying on him... How heartless. And how on Earth is that going to affect your baby? Seeing daddy only when daddy feels like it? As painful as it is, it does sound like he wants to see the child... But you might have to gauge how much he is really going to keep his word. You are so very strong to be going through this on your own. And I think you're doing the right thing by not contacting him - right now you have to take care of BOTH the baby and YOU. Baby can't be okay if momma isn't (I'm six months pregnant myself right now, so I really resonate with you in how scary it is on its own, not even counting whatever other drama is going on).0