I'm 21 and I'm pregnant. My boyfriend always told me that he wanted to marry me and have kids with me. When I told him I was pregnant he got scared and told me he wasn't ready to be a dad yet. I left one night I told him I would be right back and I came home and all of his stuff was gone. I couldn't call his phone cause it was shut off and a few days later I tried calling and texting him but no response at all. He has done this in the past but only for a couple of days and he usually comes back and says I'm sorry I needed time to think but I have no idea where he goes or stays because he's not from here. I know he loves me but why isn't he calling me back? Do you think he will ever talk to me again?
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This is devastating, I am so sorry. I know that you're asking these questions specifically about him, but if I were in your place I think I would want someone to remind me of the following: You must keep your focus on what is important and what you CAN do. It's time to be a little selfish with your thoughts, and determine what's best for your life (because that's obviously not at the forefront of his mind). Forget him. When the child is born you can file a petition to establish paternity. You'll probably receive more help and support that way than if he had actually stuck around. I know that may be vicious of me and that I don't know him; but if he's lacking so much in maturity and thoughtfulness as he's demonstrated, I'd say that I'm not that far off. He's clearly not around now to provide the type of emotional support any girl in your situation would need, so surround yourself with family and/or friends who replenish your heart and bring you peace. These are things you can do, with or without him.
To answer your question though: yes, I would be willing to wager that he will come back, that he will talk to you again...I don't wish to inspire doubt in you as I would have in such a circumstance though; so I'm not going to say anything more about his reappearance. But I will say that there is something about the way that you conveyed your thoughts that told me that you certainly have the fortitude to handle whatever any of this brings. Employ your faith, take yourself onward without looking back!4