so here is my situation:
i met a really wonderful guy who is somewhat younger than me 3-4 months back and we hit it off really well. we got very close very fast. unfortunately we were a long distance relationship. I had just gotten out of a long relationship when I started dating him and unfortunately I made all the mistakes of being too clingy, insecure, needy, dependent, and I pushed for too much commitment too soon. I realize that now and normally that's not even how I am. but, I was in a bad previous relationship and I think I just needed some time to heal and be okay being alone. either way, I think the push for commitment was too much for him to handle and he broke it off with me. he said he still likes/cares about me, but isn't ready for a relationship because he wants to experience life first.
i was devastated, and naturally like the crazy person I was, I cried/begged etc to not end it. he was firm in his decision and said no, but we chose to remain friends(his idea). that was about 2 weeks ago. for the first week or so, we talked occasionally and remained friends and I told him that eventually when I got less depressed, I would walk away from our friendship(bc him wanting to be friends seemed selfish to me), and I think that bummed him out a lot. either way, for the last 5 days, I've maintained no contact and its been hard but I've been strong. I realize how annoying and clingy/desperate I was and why I became like that and so I stopped. I haven't talked to him for 5 days now, however I do want him back. should I say a simple hi and keep it real short? could it be that he isn't contacting me because I told him eventually I would walk away from the friendship and he just thinks that that's what I've decided to do now? I want to be friends with him and let him realize on his own that he misses me(something he said he would probably realize a lot later down the road), but I'm afraid if I remain friends, ill reach the 'platonic friend' level with him and he'll never view me romantically again. but, since I can't be a part of his everyday life(since we're long distance), I'm afraid he'll forget about me if I maintain no contact. Any advice? thank you!
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i think that you need to meet with him and just let it all out ,tell him how you feel,the way you explained it here,and from there you will be able to figure it out,either he will meet with you,or not,thats were you will be able to see were he really stands with all this,and if things do work out,work on your negative actions that you explained here to make it work the second time around,good luck! / I also have a question on here can you please give me some advice!0