I am just curious, my ex and I broke up a year ago and during this time we did try a few times to get back together. But in the end, she ended up with another guy who, to the best of my knowledge, makes her happy. That is the only thing I want for her is her happiness since life is to short. We broke up since our spark just died and the attraction we once had faded. I still had feelings for her I just never showed her it afterward since I found out she has started to date again and is with a guy now for 8 months. We also have different idea's of what we want in our lives at the moment. She wants to have an active social life with parties and drinking and lots of friends. Now personally my friends don't party that much and I have never liked drinking all that much, I drink on occasion, not for fun. I have a strong core group of friends, and then lots of minor people that I hang around with. We both are in college, at that different college's so it was an art form to be able to meet up with each other.
We have been friends for this period of time, meeting up once a week (or even once every two weeks or more) just for coffee, a walk, a quick lunch or something like that just to catch it up and bring each other up to date in the others' life. She has also opened up different lines of communication, such as she has finally got instant messaging, and different other forms of communication for the both of us. She has even openly admitted that she does not want to lose contact with me. I try my best not to read into thing's but I can't help but wonder what is going through her head when she has done all of this. We both enjoy each others' company, and still have a lot of fun with each other. We do flirt a bit with each other, but nothing to out of line, I try my best to keep myself in check and her in check because I don't want her to do anything drastic (she has cheated on previous boy friends before). Is this the right thing to do? Is this the right way to go about this?
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Alright that is so freaky but it really sounds like something that happened between me and this guy. I don't cheat that's horrible. And I am not in a relationship but you know if this girl comes back to you maybe its because she really still has feelings for you, loves you with all her heart, just can't figure things out. Maybe yeah, she wants a social life for a while but sooner or later she'll want to settle down with a nice boyfriend and such.
My relationship with the guy I really adored was long distance, I really don't think that's rite because sometimes its hard to never know if they are cheating or anything like that, I told him I wanted to wait a little bit but he freaked out, Don't freak out about it. I mean maybe it sounds like something but, don't build to much feelings for her at this time, cause maybe in the end she just might break your heart and That sucks freaking butt.
But, it sounds like to me you guys are really ment, I mean you two do all this flirting and meeting and such, why not go out again or something? Well after she is done with this relationship she has, maybe try, but if she doesn't give her time.0