so boyfriend and I broke up. he already has a girlfriend though I think he's been cheating on me with her. why do I still hope he is coming back to me?. I am so upset. when we were in a relationship he never put that status on fb but now that he's with her he did. I am so hurt and confused and I just hate him so much right now... I don't know how to make the pain go away , what to do to just forget about him
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It's hard for you to get over it because all you can think about is how good things were when the two of you were together. I realize that it hurts to think about this, but your ex-boyfriend never invested as much in the relationship as you did. Don't think it's your fault. Sometimes guys go out with girls they aren't necessarily in love with to boost their own egos. I know, it's jerky of them to lead girls on like that, but it's what they do. Guys have physical needs, and they'll go to great lengths to satisfy them.
You sort of have to remind yourself of what went wrong in the relationship in order to understand why it's good that the two of you aren't together. You said that he never put your relationship status on Facebook, but he did with this new girl. There's an example of something he did that wasn't good for your relationship. You also said that you think he cheated on you with her - there's another example. It's not healthy for you to be in a relationship with someone that you can't trust. You shouldn't have to settle for a guy who doesn't make you feel good about yourself.
My advice? Give him space (and a lot of it - meaning, don't bother to call or write to him, don't pick up immediately if he calls you, and basically act like he isn't the center of your world). If he's worth it at all, he'll realize what he's missing. In the event that he comes back, you need to talk to him about everything he did that hurt you the first time and make him ensure that he doesn't do it again. But don't wait around for him because there's no guarantee that he will come back. The best way to forget about the pain is to distract yourself - do things you love (i.e. if you like tennis, focus on that), hang out with friends, or go out and meet other people.
I hope this helps, and I wish you all the best! :-)0