I've been with my boyfriend almost two years but lately I've been putting a lot of thought into breaking up with him. I do love him but we got together when we were 18 and I've matured and he hasn't and he's just not what I need at this stage of my life.
In the past we've had fights and almost broken up and there has always been a lot of tears, and he's even self-harmed and talked of suicide. I really still care for him and don't want him to do anything drastic, but how can I insure this when I break up with him?
Do you think if I ended it calmly and not in a fight it would be better?
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Tell him that you need to discuss something very imporant. Tell him how you feel. Tell him exactly what you wrote on here: That you have grown and you feel that he needs to grow more. With that said you want to end the relationship. remain civil and if you two happen to cross path again at the right time when you both are on that same mind state maybe things can work out. He is going to be crushed but don't get into a fight. WALK AWAY.
If you don't want him to harm himslef, don't start cacting distant all of a sudden and just disappera slowly. TALK TO HIM! it'll be best for you both0