My boyfriend broke up with me recently after 4 months of dating. We would always fight about the little things. He has since then explained to me that he only dated me because I showed interest in him. He put it as "just going with the flow." He said how he had never liked me as more than a friend but was afraid to break it off and lose my friendship. Right after our break up he wanted to be best friends and go to the movies together. He also told me he loved me. I told him I will talk to him once in a while but eventually we will go our separate ways. He didn't like that and said he would call me frequently. I also told him that I didn't want to talk to him as much so that I could get over him and lose hope of ever getting back together. He told me not to lose hope until I meet someone better than himself. So, after all this babbling, I have no idea what is going on. Any advice or information? It would greatly be appreciated.
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I read LuvBiddy's answer and I agree with her. He doesn't have anyone else to hook up with - no prospects. Therefore, he most likely wants to keep you around for a f*ck buddy. Friends with benefits.
This is sadly the way many people are - they're dependent on someone's company and can't manage to live their life on their own. If he found someone else, he'd drop you quickly and never look back - no phone calls, no more talking, just total silence because he's got a new girl. And if you wanted him badly, such as obssess over him, you'd keep calling him and missing him and wondering why he's such a jerk. It would take you time to get over him, but he'd be well over you easily. Desperation for his attention back.
Another thing - if you showed the interest while he showed none, then the relationship, in my belief, started wrong. It's usually the guys that want to pursue the girl, but take their time getting to know her, to seek a relationship out. During this course of time, he waits for her to build attraction up for him, so that it becomes equal. Guys have to work on loving a girl to get her to fall for him and share the mutual interest. Of course, this usually has to happen within 1-2 dates or else it's failure.
I've been there - dated (aka hung out with) a girl multiple times because she liked me when I had no interest in her from the start. I hoped to use her to find someone else, but sadly I wasn't in the frame of mind to make that tactic happen. So my time was wasted, but she enjoyed my company anyway.
Move on, cstubbs - it's a done deal, and being friends with him will only waste your time when you could spend it on dating someone new.3