I'm not really sure what to do, cause I've never been in this situation before?
The man I was seeing finished with me about 5 months ago, and we were together for 6 months. I can't seem to get over it, I fell for him in one of the deepest ways possible...when you try not to and you don't realize you have until it hits you right in the face!
But because of that, when you just feel nervous around them you start acting differently. Ordinarily I'm a very easy going, un-clingy kinda gal, I'm quite confident in myself, up for a laugh and joke and I have ambition. But I see looking back that after some time, I stopped acting like myself for fear of embarrassing myself or sounding stupid.
Here's the thing...I haven't spoken to him much since, I'm one of these people who put on a brave face to the world, I'm the one who helps my friends with their problems and listens to them. But I don't know how to talk to them about it properly but its not what I tend to do, besides they seem to not want to help and change the subject back to them. So, you can see why I just need some advice from people who will listen? No one ever even saw the pain and that I was sad, the only person that really did was him and maybe my sisters boyfriend who's is a really good friend, so he wouldn't say anything.
As you can imagine I didn't want to breakup but agreed in the end, and said we would be friends.
Ive spoken to him since, and it seemed OK, a bit awkward but OK.
Id like to get back together and give it another try at some point, because the way I was acting when before we broke is not me! All the time I acted myself, he liked me for me, and we had a good time together, I just feel stupid for stopping and being pressured into acting differently by a friend who said, oh you should be doing this….or you should be doing that….you‘ll love him otherwise! I regret that, and don’t intend on listening to her again. I know its not easy, but I'm willing to wait, but what can I do? I don’t see him in person, and if I talk to him its more social networking, fb + stuff. How can I get him back? What and how can I do it? How can I show him who I am again?
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Look, there can be done several things.
Chemistry dies out like a fire if you don’t stoke it once in awhile.
Humans have needs – both emotional and physical. They need to be caressed, held, hugged, kissed, listened to, flirted with, and desired.
Your relationship routine might have made your ex feel starved for whatever it was they didn’t get anymore – that very stuff that made your stomachs and hearts flutter when you first started dating. If he or she was starving, then chances are you weren’t getting everything out of the pairing that you wanted as well.
What were you lacking in the relationship? What was missing?
Most relationships don’t crumble because of one single issue. When one thing comes in between two people, they usually recognize it and work things out amicably – unless it’s a deal breaker like, “he wants kids and I don’t.”
You might even see the breakup as a result from one of the above issues while your ex would pinpoint something totally different. Maybe you thought it was the fact that you spent no time together, but he thought it was the nagging you did.
If you want to get your ex back, don’t do these things::
- Texting your ex will push him away – fast;
- Calling your ex multiple times a day shows neediness;
- Telling him to get back with you telegraphs insecurity;
- Writing letters to try to make him understand how you feel is
-Phoning his parents and try to convince them to talk
sense into his is a sure way to get ignored;
-Calling the new girl in his life and telling him to leave him
alone will instantly turn him against you
How to get him back?
Maybe this few tips will help you:
- Never look desperate – work on your self, you need to shine if you want to attract him back
- Start seeing other guys. That will wake uh her curiosity and insecurity (is possible that he has already move on!?)
- Go out together, do stuff together, but don’t ask him to get back, just have great time together, let he see how good it was in relationship
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All the best and good luck!