What shall I do? I’m in a relationship. 15 years, own a house, 2 beautiful kids under 5. Last few years I feel so alone. Do nothing as a couple,?

spend little time together. I try to be intimate but I feel I come 2nd best to his TV, beer and smoking weed (goes to mates to smoke) I often end up spending the entire evening doing my own thing. He works 1pm-10pm Mon-Fri. He could easily get up at 10am & spend time with me because I only work weekends. He will go bed at 4am stay in bed till half hour before he leaves for work. After I’ve been work, instead of spending time together, he’ll go out till 11pm. On evenings where he stays in, I’m sat in a different room to him not by choice. Tried talking to him I’m practically a single parent, I feel single! He doesn’t listen or even see an issue! He can’t understand why I feel so down all the time! We can’t sell the house, it would make a massive loss, need work doing. I don’t have money to just move out. Only work part time so can’t be independent right now. Reluctant to walk away from house when I’ve put so much money into it, I’ll get nothing if we sell!

There’s a guy at work who I have a massive crush on. Thought it was cause I felt lonely but it’s not, I genuinely have feelings for him. But he’s a lot younger than me. Think he might fancy me (I catch him looking at me all the time) but he’s such a gentleman that he does not do anything because he knows I’m in a relationship. I wouldn’t have an affair with him. I’m not after fun or excitement. I’d leave my partner first. But I don’t know how this guy feels about me. He won’t tell me if he fancies me whilst I’m with my partner. So what do I do? Ask him if he feels the same? Maybe if I knew his feelings it would give me motivation to leave someone I’m not in love with if I knew there was a chance of finding love again. Or do I find new job, never talk to guy from work again, stay with my partner for the sake of my kids & just carry on (because things will never change, I know this!!!) and just enjoy doing my own thing. Torn between ‘the grass isn’t always greener & you only live once, I don’t want to be unhappy’
What shall I do? I’m in a relationship. 15 years, own a house, 2 beautiful kids under 5. Last few years I feel so alone. Do nothing as a couple,?
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