She asked me for help getting a job at the place I work because she's having a hard time finding work. I told her 'Of course!' She said she didn't like her new haircut and when she sent me a pic I said it looked great and then even better when I saw it in person today. She likes all that stuff, says thank you and seems generally excited. But if I ask her to get coffee or something she just clams up and I don't get any kind of response.
I know that she's looking for validation and at some level could be using my feelings for her toward her own goals but am I doing the right thing here? If I can keep the bad stuff (Which, mind you, is only post-breakup bad) down to next-to-nothing and keep on with the good, honest talk is there a chance she may come around?
Does killing her with kindness ever work? I always hear the opposite is true but I don't know how to do that. It's been a year, I've tried dating other people, and I can't get her out of my mind. I just find myself wanting to be close to her again.