so my boyfriend lasted almost 2 weeks without talking to me. I had no idea throughout this time why he was ignoring me. Then it turned out he was upset because I did not go with him to 2 events that he invited me to which one was a party at his college. When we finally spoke he told me how he doesn't like that I never go out with him to meet his friends and stuff but I don't purposely do it and I've told him this before...the reason he so upset is because in our last big argument it was that I wasn't spending enough time with him and his family and now its about friends. After we spoke and got everything out in the open I slept over his apt and we had sex. But then when he left me home the next day he was still acting upset and told me to give him time to get over it...its been 2 days already and he still holding on to this...idk what to do should I just leave him alone...or actually end it?...we have 3 years together he's 20 I'm 18...
ps my boyfriend is a great boyfriend its just he sucks at handling issue when he's mad he like shutting people out and not talking about it
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I'm actually kind of going through the same thing with the girl I like, so maybe I can give you my perspective on the situation.
Last week I asked the girl I liked to come to my 21st birthday party at my house. The night before we got drunk and I was messing with her and said "You're not coming tomorrow." I was completely messing with her but I didn't suspect her to come either way. The next day at work she said "I'm not coming, last night you told me I wasn't invited". I didn't want to argue with her because she knew I was joking, and that night she ended up seriously not coming to my house. While it may not have meant a lot to her, it meant a lot to me that she come. I had friends asking where she was and what was I supposed to say? It doesn't make her look good (in my opinion), but I didn't let bother me.
We haven't talked in over a week (she told someone we work with she thinks I'm mad at her, which I'm not really anymore, but NOW I don't feel as though it's my responsibility to bend over backwards for her anymore. She messed up, so if she wants things to work out, it's on her (I don't suspect they will, I've never had a girl chase me, so why would she be any different?)
What I'm getting at is that guys (me anyways) might expect you to do something you don't want to do, I know she didn't want to come (she didn't know anyone and it would be awkward) but relationships are give and take. It obviously meant a lot to him or he wouldn't be acting like this. I know my birthday last week meant a TON to me, so maybe it meant a lot to him that you went with him.
He'll eventually drop the grudge. Don't give up on him (especially if he's a great boyfriend) yet. Until then, my suggestion would be to give him the attention and not expect him to do so for you. Hope this helps.0