Most of the time when I am interested in a girl, whenever I get the balls I will ask her out. Thus when I ask her out I will pay for her, but recently I am told that is wrong. I have been told and reading in some of these books that first off I shouldn't make it seem like a date and if it is the two of us that I shouldn't pay for them. This goes against everything that I was taught when growing up. Also that I don't always have to ask her out right away, but I don't know other ways of letting a girl know I am interested.
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Some girls aren't comfortable with dating like that, or it makes them feel objectified. However, I have always been taught that it is proper to go about dating as you have described.
It depends on the guy whether I pay my half or let him pay, but for the most part I expect the guy to pay on the FIRST date. Again, I think that is just because of how I was raised. You have to feel out the girl and get an idea of what she expects. If she looks at you waiting for you to pay, then obviously she expects you to. Not to mention, I think some girls who don't expect a guy to pay are still flattered if he chooses to do so.
Be yourself, and don't let books change you if you think that something is right. Chances are, a girl will be able to tell if you're not being yourself.0