Here's my story... He and I met 6 months ago and hit it off quickly. I moved in with him, and we were in love. I love him still. Here's the problem though, now my Career as a massage therapist is taking off, and he lost his job. Now, it isn't the $$ thing, because I love having him happy. Even before when he had his job I still loved to give him tons of money and gifts and was happy with it. Now I am having second thoughts about the home and life we have together, mainly because he is now SO controlling and mean. Plus my ex fiance keeps coming into my mind. I can't think about my guy now without my ex coming into my mind. What do I do? Leave him? If I do, he has no home, friends, family, or job and it looks as though I am heartless. But If I stay, then I'm unhappy. Ugh! Help me?!?
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I would say that you can talk him down, get him to redirect those feelings of inadequacy into something constructive. (Those feelings are the problem; the controlling and the meanness are the symptoms.)
Instead, it seems as though you're already one foot out the door. In which case, give him a fair period of time--say, 90 days--tell him the relationship is over, and he needs to sort his affairs. No need for a scene, just be clear and firm.1