I'm having a debate with my guy friend about the relativity of cheating. Personally I can get over cheating as long as you don't lie to me about it. Which he says isn't cheating if I know and consent. I just hate liars and would rather know you're straying rather than be hurt by the lies and feel betrayed. So is cheating still cheating if you're honest about it and your girlfriend/boyfriend doesn't oppose?
For example: David and Liv are in a committed relationship. Liv knows that David has had problems with cheating in the past. Liv doesn't see sex as a big deal as long as he's honest about it and doesn't jeopardize her health. She doesn't feel the need to stray although she is open to bringing someone in the bed with them but is comfortable enough with David that she doesn't see simple sex as betrayal on his part. Honesty is more important to her.
What are your opinions on this type of relationship?
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Put it this way, if someone you love dies in a car crash are you crushed? Yes... would it help if you watched them die in a car crash? Hell no! Watching something happen makes nothing better, infact you'd feel more helpless since you have to watch the person you love go off with someone else and you can't do anything about that! Would it be called cheating? That is up for debate really, if it's a closed relationship (exclusive or whatever) Yes it's cheating. If it's an open relationship (allowed to see other people) then no, but that is because open relationships clearly define at the start what you are getting into. If someone says sure I'll go out with you, then decides they want to sleep with other people it is cheating
What do I think about that type of relationship?
I don't see how it can work, she would be caught up in it because she likes him so much, and basically has to watch a guy who only wants sex and to use girls screw her over. Liv might not see sex as betrayal, but wouldn't that make sex between the two partners (Liv and David) pretty much as worthless as the sex he has with anyone else. It would mean either his partner wasn't 'good' in his opinion so he needs someone else to satisfy him, or that he doesn't care about his partner more than he cares about sex. Which is rather sad, since sex is easy to find in comparison to finding someone who can actually put up with you for the rest of their life.0