I was the one who broke up with him, but I feel like it was abrupt. It happened over the phone and I didn't call him that night with the intention of dumping him; everything was going well. I want to just tell him why I don't want to stay with him and explain my feelings on what I thought about our relationship. It's been a week since we've seen each other. When will it be OK for me to see or talk to him?
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Well, I was in a very similar situation once except that things ended badly and I just wanted to be given the chance to apologize for hurting him. In the end though, I realized that going back into his life after he had already started to heal wasn't going to help either me or him. It might seem like he needs closure, but I don't think telling him why you don't want to be with him is a very good idea since it's just going to open the wounds again and make him hurt over the relationship all over again and take that much longer for him to move on. That's just what I think based on my experience. But, if you still want to tell him, I would suggest doing it soon. It might depend though on each individual relationship, like how long you had been together and how bad the breakup was before deciding when to see him again though. Just don't go into detail, tell him even you weren't expecting to break up so suddenly but that it just didn't feel right to you anymore and you're sorry.0
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