How is it possible that some girls get all the guys, have a boyfriend like a week after their last, get all the guys' attention etc. while other girls don't get any attention etc?
Guys: do you tend to go to the girls who are like the first thing or the second?
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Confidence is secondary. The key is showing that you are available. If you initiated more relations, more people would have a chance to feel at ease enough to ask you out. Shy people like shy people, extroverted people like extroverted people. But shy people are afraid, so if you want something, you're the one who has to make the first move.
Why is that, you ask? Because think about why you don't approach anyone. They think the exact same thing, except you're the one on the other end. Just think about it, really. If you don't seem available, no one will approach you, like how you don't approach those who don't seem to care for you.
Almost everyone will tell you that "it's all about confidence"... but it's not. It's about "being open and welcoming towards others".0