I want to get back with my ex

Well, a year ago we broke up we were together for 11 months until he ended things just the beginning of the school year and so we started talking again and catching up, I went to his house the other day and we watched a movie and kissed and did other stuff but we didn't go all the way, and so after all that I asked him "what are we?" he said he like's it the way it is now. As in, we're friends but just a little more than friends. So I got really confused so ever sense then I haven't spoken to him the way I usually did cause I was mad I thought he wanted me back...

so tonight we talked about it and he said he wants to take things slow and that he's scared to go back in a relationship cause he doesn't want to hurt me again and he scared of getting hurt the way I got hurt too and he said he really does like me he just doesn't want to rush into a relationship just yet..

so I need help! I want him back so badly :( I love him so much how can I make him want to be my boyfriend? is there any way to make him wanna be my boyfriend or make things go quicker? cause I really want him back. Any pointers or advice would be great!

thanks :)


Most Helpful Guy

  • Huh...

    Humans have needs – both emotional and physical. They need to be caressed, held, hugged, kissed, listened to, flirted with, and desired.

    Your relationship routine might have made your ex feel starved for whatever it was they didn’t get anymore – that very stuff that made your stomachs and hearts flutter when you first started dating. If he or she was starving, then chances are you weren’t getting everything out of the pairing that you wanted as well.

    What were you lacking in the relationship? What was missing?

    Most relationships don’t crumble because of one single issue. When one thing comes in between two people, they usually recognize it and work things out amicably – unless it’s a deal breaker like, “he wants kids and I don’t.”

    You might even see the breakup as a result from one of the above issues while your ex would pinpoint something totally different. Maybe you thought it was the fact that you spent no time together, but he thought it was the nagging you did.

    If you want to get your ex back, don’t do these things::

    - Texting your ex will push him away – fast;

    - Calling your ex multiple times a day shows neediness;

    - Telling him to get back with you telegraphs insecurity;

    - Writing letters to try to make him understand how you feel is


    -Phoning his parents and try to convince them to talk

    sense into his is a sure way to get ignored;

    -Calling the new girl in his life and telling him to leave him

    alone will instantly turn him against you

    How to get him back?

    Maybe this few tips will help you:

    - Never look desperate – work on your self, you need to shine if you want to attract him back

    - Start seeing other guys. That will wake uh her curiosity and insecurity (is possible that he has already move on!?)

    - Go out together, do stuff together, but don’t ask him to get back, just have great time together, let he see how good it was in relationship

    Hope this help. For some more advanced tips, check out link , it may be useful...

    All the best and good luck!


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What Guys Said 1

  • Things don't work out for a reason usually. It's always worse the following times too. The love can turn to hate and resentment on all kinds of levels. I'd say at best have a friendship and see where it takes you. There seem to be some insecurities that won't be resolved anytime soon. Probably for the best that you don't put yourself through that kind of stress again.


What Girls Said 1

  • Iv learn from experience never go out with your ex unless their is something changed in him from the last experience.


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