I've been dating a guy for two years... three months into our relationship when we were across the country from each other, he cheated on me. We broke up for a few months but reconciled cause he said he will never do it again. It was before we were in love and where we are now.
We have been together now and things have been great.. however... I found that two condoms were missing from our pack that I know we never used. Does that mean he cheated?
He claims his roommate, who also has a girlfriend, used them.
Is this bullsh*t? Is a cheater always a cheater?
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I think it maybe depends on how he reacted the first time when he cheated and whether it was a drunken mistake etc. If he was really sorry, and didn't try to make excuses, then maybe he won't do it again. Serial cheats might say to you they don't want to cheat on you, they want to be a better person etc. but I think maybe the telltale signs are if the guy is able to semi-justify what he did (eg saying "well my girlfriend wasn't perfect either" or "when I really love I'm faithful") then it's worrying. I'm only saying this with hindsight after it happenned to me. My ex said he wanted to change and I gave him the chance...but looking back he clearly wasn't that remorseful about what he'd done to the girl before me because it didn't just happen once and because he thought the fact that he had been unhappy in the relationship was relevant...which it's not...because cheating is never OK. and then he cheated on me...
if he's really remorseful then maybe it'll be ok...good luck! :)0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE