My ex and I broke up a couple months ago. He told me the reason for breaking up was the distance (we go to school and hour away from each other), but we both know that's not the real reason. He didn't tell me the real reason though.
Anyways, he told me he wanted to stay friends and I guess he meant it. We don't talk a lot, and we haven't seen each other since, but he'll post on my FB sometimes and occasionally text me. I rarely reach out to him because I'm afraid he'll take it as I miss him and therefore he needs to back off more. Well, I do miss him, but I don't want him to think he needs to stop talking to me.
I mean, I miss him a LOT. I think about him every day and I keep dreaming about him and stuff. I know this isn't healthy, so I tried convincing myself that I can move on. Right when I started doing really well, he texted again. And now I'm back to square one. >.<
I guess my main question is what might he be thinking? If he still texts me, does that mean he misses me too? Should I stay hopeful for him, or should I move on and not wait for him?
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Ok, let see.
Humans have needs – both emotional and physical. They need to be caressed, held, hugged, kissed, listened to, flirted with, and desired.
Your relationship routine might have made your ex feel starved for whatever it was they didn’t get anymore – that very stuff that made your stomachs and hearts flutter when you first started dating. If he or she was starving, then chances are you weren’t getting everything out of the pairing that you wanted as well.
What were you lacking in the relationship? What was missing?
Most relationships don’t crumble because of one single issue. When one thing comes in between two people, they usually recognize it and work things out amicably – unless it’s a deal breaker like, “he wants kids and I don’t.”
You might even see the breakup as a result from one of the above issues while your ex would pinpoint something totally different. Maybe you thought it was the fact that you spent no time together, but he thought it was the nagging you did.
If you want to get your ex back, don’t do these things::
- Texting your ex will push him away – fast;
- Calling your ex multiple times a day shows neediness;
- Telling him to get back with you telegraphs insecurity;
- Writing letters to try to make him understand how you feel is
-Phoning his parents and try to convince them to talk
sense into his is a sure way to get ignored;
-Calling the new girl in his life and telling him to leave him
alone will instantly turn him against you
How to get him back?
Maybe this few tips will help you:
- Never look desperate – work on your self, you need to shine if you want to attract him back
- Start seeing other guys. That will wake uh her curiosity and insecurity (is possible that he has already move on!?)
- Go out together, do stuff together, but don’t ask him to get back, just have great time together, let he see how good it was in relationship
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All the best and good luck!