I dated a girl for almost a year. She lived about an hour and a half away, and when we first started seeing each other..it was like every weekend or so. Everything was great, and we never fought or had any problems. She always texted/called me and was always so interested in me and vise versa. But, about a few months ago, she started doing a side job on the weekends (work you own hours type of thing). I could also tell she was acting a little distant, and we started seeing each other less. Although I told her I wanted to see her as often as she would like, even if she had to work..etc. Well about a month ago she broke up with me, saying that she got a call from a high-school sweetheart (that she hadn't talked to for 10 years) far in another state where she grew up and still has feelings for him, and that she also had past family problems she wants to work out. I told her how I feel about her and everything, and I am not usually one to fall for a girl and be over emotional, but dammit, I miss her a lot and I can't stop thinking about her. I dated other girls before, but they all mean nothing to me, compared to her. She said I'm the perfect guy, then what's the problem? Should and how can I win her back, because she is one of a kind and even though we have been dating for a little less than a year, I still feel like she is the one? I still occasionally chat with her, but she just doesn't seem much interested in me as much. I just can't stop thinking about her, and even though I told her how I feel, it just seems like I my have missed something, and I'm not sure if I should give her time or try to explain to her more. I just wanna know I did everything I could to be with her, but don't wanna scare her off for good. Sorry for over-emotional long post, but any advice will be appreciated.
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That is an long story.
Chemistry dies out like a fire if you don’t stoke it once in awhile.
Humans have needs – both emotional and physical. They need to be caressed, held, hugged, kissed, listened to, flirted with, and desired.
Your relationship routine might have made your ex feel starved for whatever it was they didn’t get anymore – that very stuff that made your stomachs and hearts flutter when you first started dating. If he or she was starving, then chances are you weren’t getting everything out of the pairing that you wanted as well.
What were you lacking in the relationship? What was missing?
Most relationships don’t crumble because of one single issue. When one thing comes in between two people, they usually recognize it and work things out amicably – unless it’s a deal breaker like, “she wants kids and I don’t.”
You might even see the breakup as a result from one of the above issues while your ex would pinpoint something totally different. Maybe you thought it was the fact that you spent no time together, but he thought it was the nagging you did.
If you want to get your ex back, don’t do these things::
- Texting your ex will push her away – fast;
- Calling your ex multiple times a day shows neediness;
- Telling her to get back with you telegraphs insecurity;
- Writing letters to try to make her understand how you feel is
-Phoning her parents and try to convince them to talk
sense into her is a sure way to get ignored;
-Calling the new guy in her life and telling him to leave her
alone will instantly turn her against you
How to get her back?
Maybe this few tips will help you:
- Never look desperate – work on your self, you need to shine if you want to attract her back
- Start seeing other girls. That will wake uh her curiosity and insecurity (is possible that he has already move on!?)
- Go out together, do stuff together, but don’t ask her to get back, just have great time together, let she see how good it was in relationship
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All the best and good luck!