She dumped me after eight years saying I had no intentions of marrying her or have children because I been there done that. We lived together and she moved out real quick and on a day special to me as I was honoring my sister who passed away and we do a charity lunch every year. She left stuff I changed the locks so she caant come and go as she pleased not after disrespecting me and not tellling me she was moving out that day which would have been OK. Now she has been texting me and asked if I've listened to willie nelsons song "Always on my Mind" I would sing this for her at Karoke. What does she mean by doing this? OH I told her not to go we can have kids and get married before she left but said it was to late. So I cut her off NC text keep coming.
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You have a decision to make. Was her leaving a sign of her deepest character, that she is untrustworthy? Or was it out of character and she just got scared or spooked and deserves a chance to explain? Only you can answer that depending on your history with her.
I'm sure there are many relationships where someone makes a big mistake out of fear and it turns out to be a good relationship in the long run. There are also ones where years down the road you ask "Why didn't I take the hint when she/he showed me the red flags?" It's hard to tell.
If you think she's worth it, then talk to her and try to get to the bottom of why she moved out. Try not to judge too quickly as it could be something from her past that haunted her that would make sense of it if you knew. I lean toward giving her a chance to communicate if she's willing to honestly address what happened and take responsibility to deal with the issues so they never cause such an impulsive hurtful action again.1