My ex and I broke up about a month ago. Besides a seven year age difference (I'm older), the relationship was pretty perfect. He's just as mature as me and that seemed to be the problem. He said he wasn't ready for a relationship with me and he hoped we could be friends. But, he hasn't called me at all. When I call him, he seems friendly. Any communication has been from me. So I'm thinking it's best to just leave him alone, since there is no real effort on his part. The problem is that it's hard and I can't stop thinking about him. I find myself picking up the phone and putting it down on almost a daily basis. This is driving me crazy. So, if any guy can give any advice on how I can stop this behavior or what he might be thinking at this point.
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I am in the same position as you. my ex and I broke up cause he wasn't ready for a relationship, but he asked me to still be friends with him. ever since we broke up, it's been me who has initiated communication. every time I see or talk to him, he's always nice and friendly. I actually got in contact with him a couple weeks ago and we met in person yesterday! I found out something very liberating and eye opening- he hasn't changed at all. the reason why you guys aren't in a relationship is cause he wasn't ready. a month has gone by and he doesn't really communicate with you, probably cause he's not ready. it takes time. and while he is taking the time to ready himself for a relationship, you shouldn't keep contacting him and waiting for him. I learned my lesson, but it took a lot longer than a month. (8 months!) Also, in my case going out to bars did not work. the only guys I would meet are douche-bags and it would make me miss my ex even more. I suggest going on a trip and treating yourself at the spa and eating out and going to the gym. focus on you and yourself and what you want. and good luck!0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE