A lot of people use this site, like I did, to help them overcome their breakup. But not many people actually report back on their progress. For those of you who are in the midst of the dreaded break-up...this is for you.
Last year my girlfriend of 4 years dumped me, lied to me and started seeing another guy. I was devastated...destroyed in fact. I literally couldn't deal with life for the first 3-4 months. And even when things seemed to get a little better, they would just get worse. It was hell. I could not imagine how it would ever get better.
My ex had gone overseas to study, so what made matters worse was that she dumped me over skype...and I hadn't even seen her face to face. I struggled, in no small way, for 9 months. Then she came home for a holiday. Everyone told me not to go see her. But I went with my gut and met her for coffee. It was the most important meeting of my life, because it gave me closure.
So the good news...I woke up the next day and felt better. I feel over it. It doesn't hurt anymore. There will always be sadness...but my life has finally returned to normal. So for those of you hurting out there...just have hope..use the experience to grow as a person and make sure you learn from it.
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I agree with you completely. I'm sorry that you had to go through that, especially since she dumped you over skype, that's awful.
Sometimes, a big reason for people not moving on is because they're holding onto things such as false hope, having no answers, or even still having their ex's things at their house. Getting rid of all those things makes you feel so much better.
My boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago and I was heartbroken because it was such a shock. It was such a hasty decision and he even admitted regretting it straight after. This made me think there was a chance of getting back together, I was so hurt. I tried and tried everything to make us work, but he didn't give anything back. He constantly said "he wasn't sure what he wanted" This made me feel so worse. And the thought of him being with another girl hurt even more. But now, I don't feel the same pain anymore. I got rid of EVERYTHING that reminded me of him, deleted his number etc and it was such a weight lifted off my shoulders.
At the weekend I saw him out with another girl, and up until this point I dreaded seeing it... but it really didn't bother me. I think it helped that she wasn't exactly a hottie! ;) But things definitely get better, I still have bad days, but mainly good days now.0