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Try looking up my last question: has an ex ever played games with you during / after a breakup? (It might still be featured.)There could be a lot of reasons, but you might not ever know them. Some possibilities: they're really just curious how you're doing; they might want to get back together (not necessarily for good reasons); they want to know if you still have feelings for them; or they might be vindictive and have desires to cause you distress.
When i asked why he called, he messaged me in the morning and said he called because he was curious if he was blocked or not. I asked why he needs to know/cared because I told him I’d message him if i ever wanted him back in my life. Anyways, he cheated on me. I told him to leave me alone and there’s no reason to call. He then tried to make it like i was being dramatic and unreasonable. But honestly, the last time we talked he tried to make me out to be a bad person and the wrong person, and that i won’t ever change. But, we haven’t talked in a month. I haven’t reached out to him and I’ve been living my life. I told im dating someone new, and that i don’t want to date my ex anymore. He told me “I’m not even trying to get back together or anything”. Then when went into more detail about him needing to leave me alone and not be call, he made me out to be a joke. He’s such a jerk !
I can only guess, but I think the following 3 possibilities are likely, in this order:1- he wants to know if you still have feelings for him;2- he might want to get back with you;3- he really is just vindictive.Personally, I think things without you probably aren't going as well as he had hoped, and points 1 & 2 might be going hand-in-hand. Putting you down is just trying to shift the blame.Point 3 is probably not very likely.
I do still care about him. I did want to be with him. But, he hurt me badly. And he doesn’t take full responsibility for what he did. We did try and make things work and he made it hard for me. He wasn’t willing to do the true work to gain my trust back (like complete transparency with phones, etc). And he told me “you will clearly never get over this” and then he left me again. And he just would tell me how horrible and toxic i was. So yes. His life probably isn’t as good without me. I offered him a lot. Now he is lonely and maybe realizing the weight of his actions but won’t ever admit that. He has too much pride :/
Why don’t you just block them?
I blocked him after he tried calling me. I asked why he called. He said “i was curious if you blocked me or not”. Then I told him I’m seeing someone else and to leave me alone. And he made it like he wasn’t trying to get back together and i was being crazy/overdramatic by telling him to leave me alone, stop trying to hurt me.
What a jerk! I hope he doesn’t bother you anymore
I think they want to see how much you still like them, so then they can feel like you’re their fallback in case they can’t get into another relationship
I responded because i was honestly curious why he reached out. I thought maybe he wanted to apologize for cheating. I’m not interested in dating him, and I told him. I told him I’m dating someone else. He said “i only reached out to see if you blocked me or not”. And then he showed his true colors again and i had to block him. I responded, but told him i don’t want to date him ever again (and it’s true !)
He is your ex, he should not be a part of your life anymore. You are toxic to him, and he is toxic to you. DROP HIM
He isn’t a part of my life? I haven’t talked to him in over a month. He is the one that reached out to me. I asked why, not because i wanted him back. I wanted to know if he actually had something to say- like an apology. Instead, he told me “i wanted to see if i was blocked or not”.
why didn't you block him?
I blocked him after this. I had unblocked him because it’d be a while and i didn’t expect him to reach out. But, apparently he’ll continue to reach out and i should block him forever.
good, ex's should not be in a persons life. anybody who thinks otherwise, is fooling themselves
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