A few months ago, a crush of mine became separated from his wife and we have become very close. While they were still together we used to talk for hours while they were apart. As soon as they separated, we began spending a lot of time together. We went on vacation together with his family and his son. He doesn't call me his girlfriend, even though its pretty common knowledge. We have a lot of fun together. We have been friends for 15 years. We were intimate several years ago, however, after that his wife (girlfriend at the time) became pregnant. She had a son and soon later they got married, leaving me in the dust. Now here I am hoping I have my other chance with this wonderful guy. I have liked him for so long.
A few weeks ago his wife was diagnosed with Stage1B Cervical Cancer. He has been spending a lot of time talking with her, and doing things for her. They have been talking a lot more frequently. I have noticed that while we still talk everyday, the calls have become much shorter, and most of our conversations are thorough text messages.
Should I be a little worried? They have been separated about 5 months now, and our relationship is going fine. They don't talk everyday, but just about. Is there something I should be doing here?
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wow okay. well first of all, If she is pretty much dying I don't see why you need to do something for him too talk too you more. that's his Wife. or ex wife. he's gonna have that instinct to care as much as he can. he's been married too her and he loves her deeply and that will never change. Unless they are divorced, I don't think you should be friends with benifits. he's still married. taking a break is totally different compared to a divorced. that man still belongs too her. and all your gonna do is make things worse. I think you should honestly leave him. be friends. but the benifit part is rather disgusting. all that sh*t right there ruins everything. and come one, why would you mess around with a married man. he has a f***ing son! poor kid. all you do is confuse the kid. FRIENDS with BENIFIT is rather disturbing and its not a sexy trait in a women. "is he going back too his wife" well if I were my husband and he found out I had cancer, hell yeah id go back too her. she's hella a lot more important then just some thing for pleasure.1