So I told this girl that I liked her after about 2 or 3 months of "hanging out/dating" and she told me she didn't want to ruin our great friendship. Sadly, I decided to text her this because I had a momentary lapse of confidence and the friendship thing above is what she texted back.
My first question: Not wanting to ruin the friendship, is that a real reason or simply a rejection? Is there any way to know?
After about 2 months of us not seeing each other(right after I told her) I decided to call her up to go to a fair that was in town and she agreed, only I had to cancel do to personal complications with my family. She told me she understood and that she wishes me the best. After that, we had not texted or facebooked each other in about 2 weeks. Then, randomly, she decided to text me "hey" and said she was "just checking up on me" Another week later, she texted me asking about my complication and I told her everything was fine, but that wasn't enough. She asked about the location of my complication because she wanted to visit(sorry for the vagueness,). So told her she could come along if she wanted to because I was going to visit as well. Then tells me that she is doing something at the moment and the next time I went, tell her so she could come too. I told her that's fine and we didn't talk again for YET ANOTHER WEEK. This time, I invited her out to dinner/movie and she said "sure we can". That is happening this coming weekend.
My second question is: After all that has happened over the past 3-4 months (stuff above), if I am subtle persistent and patient, is it possible to win her over?
I am in love with this girl and I do not want to give up without a fight. That said, I'm also not going to treat this like an exclusive relationship. I've been out about looking for someone else. I will wait for her, but I won't stop dating people.
Girls: Has persistence(casually, not like calling 100x times a day) won you over before? Have you rejected a guy, only to have him continue to be a good friend and has that ever gotten you before? Because to me, being persistence shows that she's just not another girl.
Finally, my title question: If I'm persistent with her(again not stalkerish, just being a friend) do I have a chance?
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you're first question...i've told a guy that I didn't want to go beyond friendship before...for the very reason that I don't want to lose him as a friend. so she could be legit. But at the same time, there really is no way of knowing unless you see how things go.
for your second question, I think you may be able to win her over, but that's a given. Anything is possible. I think from what you've said she really does want to be friends, because she's still keeping in contact and she's concerned about you.
You sure you're in love with her? anyways, its good that you are still keeping your options open, and if you are just being casually persistent, showing her that the interest is still there...but not verging annoyance/clingy...then she might see the light.
as I'm typing this I feel like my opinion is swaying towards her just wanting to be friends. because if a girl likes a guy she'll go for him in an instant. however, from my experience ...relationships like that don't really last. friends to boyfriend, when it takes time, the relationship lasts longer.
that being said... persistence has never won me over lol. I tend to go for guys who don't give me the time of day. and when a guy actually likes me I push them away.
dont know if I helped at all.