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5 year relationship ended after she convinced me to move in with her and her friends as roommates. Christmas break she tells me she doesn't know what she wants out of life right now. Also she was talking to someone else lol. So I ended up having to find a new place to live, put a pretty big damp on my Christmas break and my car ended up breaking down in January. Funny though, cause here I am. New better car, going to more social events, doing things I never thought I'd be doing, and just more confident in myself overall so it was for the best. Don't need someone who brings you down constantly.
I think my worst break up was with my 1st boyfriend when we were both 22. We didn't have a fight. We were hundreds of miles apart and struggled to maintain a long distance relationship. We somehow knew it was inevitable to break up. We both discussed it numerous times and broke up as friends very peacefully. Despite that, it was painful for both of us since it's the 1st time we ever felt such a heartbreak. I've had other bfs after that. Each breakup didn't feel as painful since I kinda learned how to deal with breakups already.
so how do you deal with breakups now? do you have any tips?
@youtoo: My last breakup was over 7+ years ago. That time, I was 38; older and wiser. Including that breakup & the previous ones, I was always busy with work & investments. Every time I looked at myself in the mirrors after each breakup, I reminded myself that I'm never alone & God is always with me. I never ever saw myself as a broken woman just because I broke up with a man. God gave me lots of things to do to lift my spirits.
Amen <3 God Bless you!
@youtoo: Thank you! :) God Bless you too! <3
@EequalzMCsquared: Thank you for the MHO selection. :)
I was dating a very mentally abusive narcissistic guy a few years ago. We fought all the time, and it usually ended in physical violence. Our last fight ever happened in my car with me as a passenger. We were about 10 miles from our apartment (driving) and while I don’t remember what the fight was over he was driving about 85 in a 40 and slammed my head into the window hard enough to cut it open, he then slowed down and had his friend push me out of the car (at about 15 mph) and took off in my car. He took my car and left me on the side of the road barefoot well after dark. My purse, wallet, cell phone and shoes were in that car. I walked 3 miles to a gas station (this was in rural Vermont and nothing was open at 3am) used the cashiers cellphone to call for a ride, and hid in the gas station bathroom with the door locked for over an hour before my ride came. I made him slide his Id under the bathroom door before I’d come out. I know it sounds crazy to do that, but I was sitting on the disgusting bathroom floor after having multiple panic attacks and I was convinced my now ex was goino to find me. I remember sitting on the floor staring at the dried blood on my arms and just being completely devoid of any emotion, going in and out of being semi aware, and I had no idea how much time was passing. I never saw or spoke to this guy again. My ride and his friend dropped me off at their apartment and went to this guys house and stole back my car, and the next day went and took everything of mine they could from the house. That was my worst breakup.
I genuinely loved a girl for about 4 years but couldn't do anything about it cuz she was at this boarding School really far away and i wasn't even sure if she will ever contact me or will i ever meet her again. Then this one summer i heard she was in town, tracked her down, got here phone number and we talked. Many days later we kicked off but she said i dont want any tags (i didn't know it will be a big issue later) i agreed and we dated for about a month. Later she tells me that she has fallen for me. Couple of days later she tells me she wants to flirt with other guys, in a few days she wanted to go out with one of the biggest pervert i know... In the next few days she says " i want other guys to touch me" and that she wants all the flavors.. It all grew into massive arguments and intensly stressful days. I was so fucked up in love i gave my consent for some of it (Over the fabric kinda stuff). The next day she says "it was great but i want to end it" . There you go, worst breakup ever. It only made me realize what a fool i was with no self respect. Just a doormat for her to walk on.. Later on i get to know she was cheating on me with 2 other guys and she was the one to give me the info. Worst breakup in human history? Oh yeah.
I was with this guy with whom I had the best relationship I’ve ever had, great communication and affection. But there was this other girl that was after him. He didn’t want to stop seeing her so I stopped accepting his calls and cut any ties, friends in common or relationship with him. The way I detached myself from him was so abrupt and my position was so unshakable. But that’s the way I cut bs from my life and to this day I’m glad I did that. Can’t take men who likes to make women waste their time.
good for you girl. i want to be more like you
My first boyfriend. I was 19, so late in the relationship department, and we were only together for a month. But God it was a great month, seeing/speaking to eachother every day, going to gigs, hanging out with his mates, sitting in his room, laughing and watching movie together.A week before the end we were walking home drunk from a club, and he told me how the word “love” scared him, cause anytime he’s said it the relationship ended soon after, but then he told me he loved me, and I was honestly on Cloud 9...Until 4 days later when he dumped me cause we “didn’t communicate enough” (in regards to speaking/texting) compared to how much he talks to his mates. According to him it was the only unsolvable problem.But then his mates tell me a couple of weeks later he’s not over his ex, whom he’s still mates with and told me I had nothing to worry about 😂And now despite my attempts to be civil, he ignores me, both in public and on social media 😂
I was dumped less than a week coming back from surgery. When I asked for more commitment he said that there was too much of a ‘gulf between our age, experience and perspective’, which was absolute rubbish considering we were only five years apart in age and if it had been a real problem he shouldn’t have been going out with me in the first place instead of drawing it out over months. The worst thing was he did this when he turned up for a date he had organised only half an hour before. He refused to give me any closure. The worst part of the whole experience was that I was head over heels in love with this guy. It all came as a complete shock as I hadn’t seen it happening but also that I was not great health-wise either.
Hmm. Let's start. I'm married to "mama boy" who is 10 years older than me, and he's now on gay dating apps, adding on Instagram a lot of gays all over our state. Fell in love with his friend who are straight and went on a cruise to see him there (that guy was working there), locked his phone, constantly texting with someone and telling me that he's not cheating. So I'm alone with 3yrs old child all by myself (because my relatives are in Europe), trying to look like everything is ok. And not I need to get together after this disaster and take care of myself and my daughter. Who can beat my break up? 😅P. S. I'm still married to him, but we're separeted. I want drama free break up, so we're doing it really slowly and peacefully.
Over a years as friends. 4 days after she initiated the relationship (I still hadn’t seen her in this time) the days her mum doesn’t want her to be with me and that she wasn’t going to come to volunteer (where we would see each other) any more. Basically that, then unfriended like we’ve never met. Sent my gifts to her to someone we volunteered with just so she could avoid me.Supposedly she’s moving too. The whole thing is just ridiculous. I did nothing wrong, she liked me, she just valued her parents opinion too much. But neither had I ever met her parents not given any opportunity to make a good impression.Apparently we can’t even be friends either. I priced together a little bit of it from her friends but basically I got nothing from her since she broke up with me through that one text. I’ve just got no information about what’s happened to her and was completely abandoned. I want to say at least she didn’t cheat on me ir whatever but it still *really* fkn hurt.
It was my first relationship about two years ago. We dated for a month and then she ghosted me. I really liked her and would have done anything for her, but apparently she didn't feel the same way. I was still in that kind of "fantasy land" that you experience at the start of a new relationship, especially your first, where everything is so amazing and surreal. Well when she ghosted me I came crashing back to reality real fast, and fell into kind of a depression for awhile. It's been better recently but I'm still not totally back to who I was before that relationship.
I feel you bro, my relationship was a little longer, almost 3 years. 3 days before my birthday she broke up with me. I was in a bit of a depression too, now I am doing a lot of fun stuff but sure as hell not the same.
@Rednaw049 yeah I suppose mine was nothing compared to yours after 3 years, I was still pretty hurt though. I don't know if it's possible to really ever be completely the same as before. If it is I haven't figured it out.
my worst breakup was about 2 years ago now. we were engaged, and planned on moving in together. it was too fast considering we had been dating for 6 months. we got together at the worst possible time, one of his close family members died and it put a lot of strain on us. i looked after him and tried to make him smile at least once a day but even that wasn't enough to keep him. when the initial shock of the death wore off he started becoming more agreeing, less decisive, and less involved than he used to be. anyway in the end he told me he loves me and ghosted me. bribed me in order for me to get my stuff back, and turned mutual friends against me. i needed him to step up and be responsible for what was going on at the time and he clearly wasn't ready to be that just yet. in the end i am glad it ended. i am with a guy right now who treats me how i feel i should be treated.sure, he's an ass sometimes but he's treated me so much better than the rest. some breakups are a blessing
I had a crush on my guy best friend when I was in 7th grade and he moved out of the state. The crush kind of stayed for a whole 4 years and it didn't help that we kept close contact. He visited during summers and I confessed that I still liked him in 9th grade. He said he liked me back and we started dating despite the fact that he was going to leave at the end of that summer. 6 months later, he broke up with me because of God. I found out later he's now dating the girl he told me to not worry about. 😂 We're still friends and I've long since moved on, but it's still very awkward and not at all like it used to be between us.
Told me she wanted to break up, but she'd call me later to talk more. She never called. Reached out after about two weeks to meet up to talk and when the day came she ghosted me, asked her why and she said she missed me, but because I didn't do anything wrong seeing me would only hurt worse. To this day, I'm left with so many unanswered questions. I think being left not knowing or being told you didn't do anything wrong is the most painful way to be broken up with cause you're just left wondering what happened. It's hard to accept it really was "them" and not "you".
So i was 17 and very against weed. My boyfriend that I had been dating for 2 years started smoking behind my back. I knew about it and let him do it for about 2 weeks before I said something (happened probably 5 times in the 2 week span, so i was trying to give him a chance to quit himself knowing how much i hated it) I finally said something, he didn't stop, so we took a break. I told him when he quit smoking weed we could try again. He didn't quit, he started smoking more so natrually i start talking to this other guy cause he obviously didn't care about our relationship right? Well, someone called him one night and told him all of these awful things that i had said (that werent true) and he ended up killing himself after calling and telling me how it was all my fault, how much of a bitch i am, all that. The same night. We broke up about 3 weeks before my birthday, my birthday i was sitting in the church at his funeral. Definitely the worst breakup, ever.
We split up but she was a nympho so she let me continue to have sex with her any time I wanted which kinda made it worse to get over, but I couldn't NOT have sex with her when she would let me do whatever I wanted! Eventually I was just hate-fucking her every weekend until I found someone better.
It was in 1942. My girlfriend didn't raise the hand so I had to report her to the regional police. Didn't see her again since then...Yeah well... Had only one girlfriend so far and she broke up 3 month ago. It literally fucked my heart on a very hurtful way. Glad I'm mostly over her.
I've had a couple bad breakups but I guess my worst was my first bc after we broke up he still told me I was his girl and loved on me, I found out that he had a new girlfriend even though he was all on me kissing me earlier that same week, I couldn't take it it hurt so bad I had to leave school because I couldn't stop crying
I think I feel worse when I broke up with my fiance that I had waited for. For 4 years while he was in prison, then the day he got out and i. picked him up I realized he wasn't what I wanted anymore so I broke up with him the next day kicking him out! I at least let him have fun first😂 lol he ended up marrying the girl he net next and having 3 kids so I guess it was meant to be lol
Alright. Sit back and let me tell you a tale. My worst break up was from someone I wasn't even DATING. Me and my ex, who'd dumped me twice, were talking about getting back together. But she was with this other guy who she said was just using her for sex, so my logic was, "If he's just using her for sex, then this ain't a real relationship." So, she tells me she's gonna dump him and go back to me, until one day she says she's done with dating. Apparently the guy pissed her off or something. Anyway, she says she's done with dating and I'm just there crushed. Well, I go to school the next day and see her and him sitting together snoggin it up. Honestly I shoulda, woulda, could've seen it comin, given the history. But my dumb ass thought "3rd time's the charm."
I have once broke up with a guy on a school field trip. I broke up with him for Many reasons.1. Right after he asked me out he said, “this is similar to how my parents got together!” We were in 7th grade2. He made our first date to a holocaust museum.Lmao at the story!
Fell in love with a guy and we dated for 7 months and we both went through some tough stuff like he lost his job and we made plans for marriage and stuff but then he said he wasn't ready for commitment and he's going into the air force and broke up with me after i was ready to do anything for this guy
i have had just 2 boyfriends, because I was with my first boyfriend for 4 and a half years. He cheated on me with my ex best friend after 2 years, and she told me. We spent 2 terrible years trying to "build trust" before he cheated on me again with a girl who had the same name as me. When I tried to "find closure" by talking to him about it, he ghosted me. I found out later that he had left me for her. This was 3 years ago and I'm still dealing with it. May our burned bridges light the way.
Caught him cheatingFound out he had a main chick (was dating her for 3 years) I didn't know about itBut she full came on to me and trying to choke meWhat the fuck? LolSo yeah I yelled at him "we are over, dickhead"And left.He was the biggest mistake/regret
I've never fallen in love so I don't know how heartbreak feels like. I'm scared to experience that honestly, cause I'm not good at handling emotional pain.
You got nothing to be scared from I am hoping that you will never feel it, although its not that harsh, But the chances of that are low so I am wishing you the best
2 days after valentines, 1 day away from our 1 year anniversary, she broke up with me for a guy who she had a short passion for.. they broke up very soon into their relationship. I wanna ask her if it was worth it cause she came back to me recently, but this wasn't the first time we broke up
First serious relationship. Everything began to go downhill, I was gonna make things up with her favorite candy and flowers with a cute little message that said "when the last flower dies is when I'll stop loving you" (I stuck a fake flower in the bouquet) then she called me and broke up with me on Valentine's day when I was about to go see her that night. Pretty sure she was cheating on me anyway.
I got ghosted and didn't realize I was being ghosted... I nagged and spam texted what was wrong until I got a message "it's not you it's me." 2 weeks later I get invited and talked into going to this guys pre-wedding ceremony... turns out she was cheating on another guy to begin with so whatever with that trash. Poor guy is going to be stuck with her.
LDR... almost 7 years together. she fell for that colleague who tried something despite knowledge of my existence.After a few months of being pushed, she dumped me, got laid for a few weeks and got dumped.I'm climbing out of depression... After about 8 years.
My worst breakup has to be with my latest ex , was in a depression at the time and even suicidal when she broke up with me (i can understand why'd she would do that though). but that was a rought time period.
Worst breakup?A guy lead me on, we dated for a while, he went for a "family travel"Never came backNever said a word.Good thing I didn't love him
Losing the guy I fell in love with, whom was never in love with me, whom i never dated, it was like, losing the solid ground beneath me because i put all my time and effort in him, trying to get him to feel the same, and when i thought he did, he used me and went back to what he was doing before, and NOW come to find out he slept with 3 of my friends (which i could care less about now)
My most recent long term boyfriend cheated on me, lied to me, manipulated me, and getting out of the relationship was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do! I was so so hurt and made to feel guilty for leaving, but I'm the happiest I've ever been!
congrats my love. enjoy life! ❤
@youtoo Thank you so much !! :)
Mine was just a 6-year friendship but we were super close and now we don’t talk or communicate at all. It’s super hard to get over.
With my last ex. He ended abruptly things without even much of an explanation. I've moved on, but I'm still confused and hurt.
Those kind suck where the person isn't honest and open enough to at least tell you why and what the true reason really is.
Being told. Worst break up? We broke up because he lost the feelings towards me and told me that was hard for not seeing you around me (actually it's a long distance relationship)
The guy dumped me because I wasn't having sex with him, I wasn't telling him I loved him enough, and he was interested in going out and having fun (sex with other people). But a week before he told me he wanted me to move in with him and have his kids. The best part of it, he messaged me a few months later wanting to date again. I told him no, he had a fit. He called me horrible names and I blocked his number and all his social media.
Wow. He's crazy !
@Julie_totally_bored yeah. Which is why I'm glad he dumped me.
Breaking up a the race way in public and in front of all out friends... it was the worst
Was dumped bring the reason because of family. Later found out her family were being nice dunno who is lying. Loved her so much, did what I could. She actually wasn't well at all, tried as much as I could. Was ldr, also found out she was seeing someone else behind my back. Do nice and that's what you get, life is cruel, but you have to be tougher :((
Had to break up with my girlfriend because she was an ace and I wasn't. She's a wonderful person and if that problem wouldn't have been there it could've lasted forever I guess. We sadly weren't able to work around it anymore after 10 months
One of my college girlfriends, because we we kept trying to get back together and having a long distance relationship. After that I never went back to a girl once broken up. And no more long distance relationship.
Ex punched me in the face while sleeping. She was kissing guts at the car so I left her there. We got into a physical fight.Her excuse was blacking out. She didn't remember doing it so it wasn't her fault right? So bogus.
My first girlfriend ( ex) she broke up with me 5 days after i gave her engagement ring and asked her to marry me.
After two years he just disappeared. We were really happy he had just sent me the sweetest message one week before telling me he missed me and was wearing a sweater of his that I had worn because it smelled of me. He blocked me on all social media and I discovered he started dating his best friend. At least she’s one of the ugliest girls I have ever seen in my life. Small consolation, he auto punished himself.
I got dumped in a Kmart parking lot and he drove off in his truck
When I was in high school I dated someone in years, only to find out he was cheatimg on me with a friend... Sigh
I believe ghosting and/or not telling the reason why (including a simple "i dont love u anymore") are the worst. been through both
i meant a simple i dont love you anymore is an acceltable answer, instead of not telling anything
It wasn't a break up cause we weren't really official but he dumped me in park then left me crying on the fort porch outside my locked door. It was very painful situation for me during g the time, it took me 3 years to get over it.
Me spilling out my feelings, him giving a two word answer.
He ghosted me and came back 6 months later to apology
My worst break was my first one and guy end it with a text.
The father to my son. I had no choice but to leave him. Till this day it still breaks my heart😢
Specially the 26 th one. Can't differentiate between 118 and 26th. Both are worse.
The one I got cheated on. I kept being an a**hole for several girlfriends after that.
My most recent one 4 months ago, first person I ever loved
Probably my first boyfriend we were too young to be dating.
Loved this girl all throughout high school even to this day 6 years later, we broke up over petty differences of her going to college and me the military
the girl whom I loved broke up saying that she had to concentrate on her studies I think it was the worst reason
My girlfriend tolf me that she feels it was a one sided relationship and i was dead to her and took my car
My last ex she broke up with me cause according to her I didn't have enough money to take care of her
You dodged a bullet on that one
Yup fucking gold diggera man
It's not really a break up, but my girlfriend passed away last February... 18 years old
She broke up with me b4 a test so it kind didn't let me concentrate all that well during the test
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