So here it goes... I was dating this guy for about 6 or 7 months. He honestly was my first boyfriend and was 3 years older than me. I cared a lot about this guy, I lost my virginity to him, etc and he seemed to care a lot about me but was never committed towards me. He did things such as lying to me and telling me he had a birthday present for me when he didn't. He also made the relationship fit around his schedule because he claims he was "very busy" with school, which I was too. He also didn't like go around telling people we were dating and said we were casually dated whenever people asked him about it and I wasn't there. I really think this kid may have emotional problems. Anyway, he broke up with me about 4 months ago and I was devastated, but I also realized I was never completely happy in the relationship so this made it easier to get over him. I deleted him from facebook and cut off all contact and never really met up with him to talk things over because I felt he didn't deserve that and that would just make it harder on me. I've been doing really well now, I'm not dating anyone due to a very busy semester in school, but I'm meeting new people and have almost completely stopped thinking about him. I keep running into him when I am out the weekends and stuff, at bars and other places and he is always with the same friend. He keeps coming up to me at the bars and trying to talk to me and be all nice to me, telling me how awful he has been. He also recently sent my friend a message saying he needed to win me back.. My question is what makes a guy who you thought would never commit all of the sudden want you back? and what should you do about it? I hate that I keep running into him because he always tries to talk to me and spend time with me when he sees me, telling me how he feels like he's such an ass and this makes it harder for me to move on completely, if that is what I should do
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Well most of the reasons why people want back their ex is usually because they feel rejected. So it's that, "wanting something you can't have" theory. For example, you can throw a string on the ground in front of a cat and it will do nothing with it (only because it is accessible) it isn't until you pick up the string, is what makes the cat chase after it. You are the string as long as you are not accessible to him, he wants you. But as soon as you drop your guard, it's gonna be the same story all over again.
No only that, guys love knowing that they are the only dip stick that has made it into your tank, so to speak.
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