ok we all know that their are guys and girls that cheat.. but why? that seems like a stupid question but this question is more for the people who have cheated on their girlfrend or boyfriend. i have this best friend who constantly cheats on her boyfriend but she claims she is deeply in love with him and i have my boyfriend who cheats on me.. the crazy thing is if all he wants to do is be free and sleep around why just won't he let me break up with him? every time i break up he keeps telling me how much he loves me and wants me to be his wife and he won't do it again and blah, blah, blah... the thing is i'm so confused.. you want to have freedom and f*** everygirl in the world but you also want to be in a serious relationship.. it doesn't make sense. can someone please, whos been in this particular situation explain whats the whole point... and if you have an idea why plaese tell me.
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Fucking a random chick: Usually based on attraction
Having a serious relationship: No attraction, only rapport.
Think about it - Most relationships start with a feeling of attraction.. That "falling from a plane" feeling. After a while of dating, people get used to that feeling as a bubble of comfort, otherwise they feel the same instincts which aren't being fulfilled otherwise.
Relationships on the other hand are about Rapport, NOT attraction. Everything that was once "fun and games" has suddenly become serious. Keep in mind that there are several relationships which have both attraction and rapport - but I'm talking about the average of my own relationships, in order to help you understand.
In the typical relationship - Rapport is present but attraction is not.
In the typical "f*** buddy" - Attraction is present and Rapport can build.
So if you think about it - there are more windows of opportunity with that of a new person.. But there are more memorable moments with that of your significant other.
Either way - I hate cheaters, I'll never be a cheater; but if I were you.. I'd suggest dumping him.. Rudely, bluntly, honestly, etc.. The thing about it - is that you aren't being yourself by staying with this guy.. Your saying: "Oh but he loves me".. Which is making you think he's going to change.. For every time he's made you think he's GOING to change - has he ever? (Strictly speaking of him cheating)