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Some people have a rebound to get their mind off their ex. I've done it, but I've always been up front that my interest is short term and didn't lead anyone on that I was interested in more
But some people actually get in committed relationships
Because people are unthoughtful and careless. Also, probably selfish.
Cuz they are. Stupid
To tell you the truth they really don't know why but the fact is that they don't feel it for about 3-6 months. So if one tells you he would like to start something but he will need some time to get over everything. Please give him that time and don't force anything. You can hangout and all because we need someone to hear us out and be there when we truly need someone
Because they believe that another person will help them get over it.. But, don't realize that they just gon end up hurtin the person.. It's pretty selfish honestly.. I been through that twice honestly.. -_-...
Some times they don't know that they aren't over their ex, other times they are hoping that seeing someone new will help them move on.
Well that’s dumb
Yeah, but most people are dumb and short sighted. Can't help human nature, I guess.
I thought I was over him but a relationship made me realize I wasn't and it ended and I actually just got back with the first ex
How long were you together
Wait which one
You and your rebound
Oh a month
The two parties really weren't into each other to begin with. They cut their losses and decided to move on, mainly for selfish reasons.
Why get together if you weren’t into each other
This is typical in today's age of dating. They attempt to get over their exes by replacing them with new romantic partners.
My last ex i think used me as a rebound but the weird thing is. He never got over her...
I'm sure a gorgeous woman, but from what I've always seen, you were most likely a rebound. Especially if they got back together...
Nah they didn’t but, he tried to paint over his feelings for her with me and he cared about her a lot
He was with me while telling her he misses her too
The beginning of us being together he would check in on her
I hate to see this happen. Don't hurt someone else because you can't get over your past. He should be ashamed. He shouldn't have drug you into this situation.
Then he would sexually flirt with her in the beginning too
Like I said, selfish.
He told me he loved me after being together just less than two months
The Cling effect. Uses a false and erratic sense of security to lure you in. No one falls in love in 2 months (and I mean no one).
Yep he told me he loved me but just the month before he was sexually flirting with his ex and telling her missed her!
Calling his ex “honey”
I avoid getting too involved but I must ask, what age range is he?
25 years old
But my situation is weird he dumped this girl. She didn’t dump him. And i think he rebounded with me but i thought dumpers don’t have a rebound
He's older than I am and has a fuckboy mentality and the tendencies to go with it. Should've left him alone. Sorry you have to deal with that.
No, dumpers don't get to rebound.
I heard dumpers rebound
That is incorrect. When you dump someone, you're looking to replace them. You can't rebound of you called for the break-up. It's logic.
Some dumpers are forced dumpers so they do rebound
I just told you my last ex was with my while telling someone else that he missed her, he was the dumper
And he was sexually flirting with her
This guy's just a pure tool.
Yeah so i think dumpers can rebound
Maybe they can. But ultimately, they'll only look shittier in the end.
Cuz you can't just stop your life you have to get on with things move on and be happy
But you’re using the other person
Not really its its only the start of the relationship and the feels will grow
Most people do that because they think it's a faster way to get over someone or even make them jealous
Why would they make them jealous lol
Depends on how the relationship ended. Usually on a bad note, some would date another quickly to show their ex partner they have got over them and he/she could find someone faster than the other. I had an ex boyfriend did that before
Why would they want to prove that they got over them?
Distraction it works and eventually you’ll get over it and never look back.
My ex used me as a distraction but he still was flirting with his ex when he saw her i gues i was a failed rebound
Sometimes people do this to motivate their ex to get over them. Sometimes they do it to distract themselves from their ex. And sometimes they do it just to try and help move on faster
Because some do it to get over their ex. Ever heard of "the best way to get over someone.. is to get under someone else?" They are trying to purge.
Yeah but they’re using someone els
To try and get the ex salty or in hopes of moving on but not how it works
Why in the world would they do that
Why not people are me a many do it
So what do you mean that’s not how it works... i heard a good way to get over someone is to get under someone
No it's not it makes u forget about them like filling a void but as soon as u are not with your new partner if u truly cared for your ex u will remember them that's why most that move on fast to a new partner would return to a ex if the offer was on the table
So what about the dumpers
What about them
Are u still wondering why your guy used u for your ex?
What are you talking about?
I dumped a guy and were together but it’s not a rebound
I told him i loved him already
Oh I see do you love him? And are you over your ex?
I wanna t over my ex when i got in a relationship with him
And are you over your ex?
Somewhat i still love and care about him
So how can u love 2 men just seems like u are playing games
How can u claim to love two men that simple
They exactly date because they aren't over their ex, they think they will forget the old by focusing on the new.
What do you mean “think”
They hope they will replace the old with the new, But it mostly doesn't work well.
Because a guy can’t just wait for everything to be okay. You have to take opportunities afforded to you as they appear. Besides, the distraction can be good, the understanding that there’s other fish in the sea is good.
Trying to move on, convince themselves that everyone's different and it's possible for the same thing to not happen twice.
Maybe to see if they are over there ex or to piss off the ex.
Why would they want to piss them off if they broke up lol
Well depend on who did the brake up.
Well why woulda dumper or dumpe want to make the other jealous
There are sick people out there, and sometimes the dumped one wants to show the dumper that " I don't care if you don't want to be whit me I am dating someone else already". And hope that the dumper will regret that he or she wanted to end the relationship in the first place.
I don't understand with it too, for me don't even start a relationship if you still had feelings for your ex
I take it that you get over your exes pretty quickly. I mean, if you don't get over, do you wait years to date? Makes no sense.
If your ex was the one you loved very much it's never that you would get over him/her
Because that's the only thing that will help some move on
Sometimes Its the best way to get over somebody. It's harsh but life must go on.
How will you know you're fully over someone until you start dating again?
It is often a distraction technique based around sexual deaire
To get over their ex. Plain and simple.
What if they still aren’t over their ex after the new r
I think it happens to a lot of people. It isn't right at all. Because I'll feel used as heck. He clearly can't be alone for too long and that's not good either.
To help overcome their ex
Some people hope to get over their exes by dating
They don't like being alone
That’s using the other person
Basically. The reasons aren't always genuine attraction, sadly :/
Do get over their ex.
They’re using the ex
Most likely to get their ex out of their hearts
Ahh so it’s like they are using the other person
Yea a nail gets out another nail
They do it to get their mind off of it
Cuz they’re trying to move on from their exes
For a rebound
Why not go tot he gym or on vacation or other things
Some people react in different ways, rebounds are not fair to the other person but some people see it as better than being lonely
To help them over there exs
to try to move on, quickly
Trying to go on with their life.
Cause they want an outlet to get over there ex
Coz they're crazy.
Avoid those freaks.
To forget their ex
To get over it
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