and what do you think is the best way to deal with it?
i didn't break up with my girl or anything, just so ou know. I'm just curious.
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My last relationship ended really badly. I was with him for 3 years, and the last year I was with him I was away from home at a big university. It mainly ended because he was paranoid. When I got home he kind of ignored me, but still attempted to control me; he was so ridiculous.
Anyways, when I broke up with him I knew I was still in love, but I did not intend of staying in love with someone who wasn't in love with me. The morning after the breakup, my best friend came over and we had a picnic and talked. And I only really cried the night of the break up.
Since it was summer break, I couldn't hide in my studies, so I focused on work and friends and stuff. I have some incredible memories. I talked about the break up a lot. Talking about it helped me realize how sh*tty the relationship really was.
The breakup also happened at a terrible time, my little sister got cheated on (her best friend stole her bf), so I couldn't exactly show much weakness since she looked up to me for strength. What really helped was really me telling myself to just get over it. My friends were really supportive, and constantly being busy was a great way to "forget" about him. I did all the things he would have hated or wouldn't allow me to do, so I felt fantastic.
It was actually really easy for me, looking back on it. It took a while to get used to the fact that we weren't talking, and for a while I actually thought he would call back. But literally a month was all it took. I don't even remember what it was like to be with him. All I have are good memories and terrible memories, but I'm not angry or bitter. I don't think I ever really was.
I think its been like 5 months or something, and I'm already moving on. It feels so great to know that I was so able to put something so difficult behind me, I'm really happy it ended.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE